How To Get What You Want And Want What You Have by John Gray

How To Get What You Want And Want What You Have Reviews

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  Judith Symonds

  I am 38 years old and quite often other people notice that I am sensitive. I am now only coming to terms with this myself & John Gray helped me. What most people comment about Gray's work is the 'love tanks'. This makes alot of sense to me. Too much of a good thing can be, well just 'too much' and my mother always taught me 'everything in moderation'. Great! However, what I had never really understood is that people who wear their heart on their sleeve or 'sensitive people' absorb much more of the energy from around them. As a child, yes, I absorbed lots of negative energy. Then when I as in my late teens I learnt to block the energy. However, with no energy coming in or out, I became physically quite ill when I was around 34-35. Gray teachers how to discharge negative energy & I have been practicing it. It works really well for working through blocks. Also, great for parenting as I have two kids. One sensitive and one not.
  
  I recommend this book if you are unhappy at work, if you are often told that you are sensitive and you don't yet know how to manage your power, if you always wondered what meditation was all about and didn't get it yet and most especially if you are the parent of a sensitive child. Enjoy
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  Rosslyn

  This is a fabulous book for people that found themselves wanting more after reading Rhonda Byrnes "The Secret". John Gray teaches the reader how to be true to himself in order to achieve personal happiness.
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  Ely Rugiada

  Un libro pieno di concetti che sono molto particolari e non inerenti alla psicologia. Un non saggio.
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  Carol

  I liked a few of the chapters that did not dwell on God. I learned that we all have several love tanks and when one is full it can change the way we interact with that person. We need to then switch to another love tank and try to keep them all in balance. An interesting concept.
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  Lisa

  I'm doing the #READ100 a day challenge that Richard Denney mentioned about on his YouTube channel. It really is helping me get more reading done. I've read this book in three days and usually it takes me longer to read a book than that. This book was really easy for me to fly through though. It was understandable yet also very descriptive in the purpose of the soul message. I have read a few self help books this year and this one has got to be my favorite one. Even though I'm an agnostic and don't believe in the spiritual teachings in the book, John Gray lays it out for everyone; for every different religion so it's really easy to comprehend. I think I need a break from the self help books though......arggghhhh!!
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  Charmin

  HIGHLIGHTS:
  1. Keep wishing for what you want (intention) and keep your heart open (acceptance).
  
  2. Do your best. Surrender to god for the rest.
  
  3. Personal success –the ability to get what you want and wanting what you have.
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  Sherry Cabrera

  One of my all time favorite books. Really puts life in perspective and explains what really makes a person happy.
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  Ouiame Filali

  To control our life we have to deal with our past and all the negative feelings left.
  In every step of our life, from infancy to adulthood, we need a special kind of love; the love of GOD, of our parents, of our siblings and friends, of our partner, of our children, of people who needs us, but the most important we need to love, value and appreciate ourselves. Any lack of these love tanks could negatively affect our present and future. Sometimes we feel depressed, empty or paralyzed, we have all what we need, still we are not happy. We feel nothing and the worst is that we start to blame our family and friends, we lose control over our feelings and relationships, we feel disconnected from our desires, our dreams seem unreachable and we don't recognize our self anymore. The innocent child, the ambitious adult, the dreamer, all of them just disappear, leaving us to infinite sorrow.
  John Gray show us how to deal with this emptiness and inability to be happy and how to create a life of true fulfillment. He takes us into a journey inside each of us to reconcile our past with our present, to forgive our parents' mistakes and appreciate their love instead, to forgive ourselves for the mistakes we didn't do and to find the love we didn't have when we needed it.
  Our life is not a result of our past, but of our attitude dealing with this past.
  A must read book.
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  Shhhhh Ahhhhh

  This was a significantly better book than expected and I plan to buy a hard copy of it. What drives my appraisal of it is a section towards the end that describes an exercise in identifying and resolving emotional blocks. It asks the reader to identify common emotions (like anger) and to describe them in terms of the underlying emotions (shame, guilt, sorrow, etc). The book walks the reader through resolving these emotional blocks by writing about them (I'm ashamed about__, I'm feeling guilty about __) depending on the surface emotion being perceived, asking you to dig deep and evaluate what's going on with you, and end the write up describing what you want. I think this is probably one of the more useful things I've picked up in a 'self help' book like this, especially given the title. There are some sort of adjacent/ parallel thought exercises to accomplish the same end (like revisiting old instances of a given emotion to resolve it currently, which was intriguing).
  
  There were some other nuggets but that was the most impacting for me personally.
  
  Unlike most other books in its category, I DO suggest that other people read this book.
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  Claire

  I most liked how simple John Gray made success sound.
  
  There are lots of little anecdotes to support his thesis, as well. ("You can get what you want and enjoy it.")
  
  I didn't give him a maximum rating since his advice is a little reliant on God.
  I mean, I've read that could stand for "Good Orderly Direction" so that is essentially OK.
  
  This guide does not have an index, which lost it esteem in my opinion, even if it does condone meditation, which I like.
  
  One thing I found a little distracting about this book were the seemingly arbitrary
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  remarks which didn't seem to be any more or less important than the rest of the text.
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  So this is a reasonable book.
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  Shirin Abdel Rahman

  I won't exaggerate and say this book changed my life yet it changed my perspective to certain matters.
  the author is advocating a mental and religious approach to heal your soul and cope with your new life, no one can control his life hundred percent or external factors yet we can definitely control the outcome and how we see things from our point of view, let the bygones bygone and stop blaming others for your anxiety,depression and fear of the future, the four tanks of love and twelve blocks are the best part, instead of blaming live your life,instead of stacking in the past , predict your future and gain control of your life.
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  Vijay

  Good book...loved the concept of love tanks... just like Hinduism, we have to be content and happy about what we have by God's grace and we have to keep donating something on different occasions to help yourself, as it will give you more satisfaction than anything else. Here, important thing is, we don't need wealth all the time but we may offer our service, time, love, even just a smile at least to needy people, animals or even mother earth and you will get back at least twice what you donated or offered someone.
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  Dieter Berndt

  Once you begin to get the message, you simply cannot put it down. The book has concepts that have steered me in the right direction and helped me to address my own blocks, needs and wants.
  It is not a book for reading once, but a book for keeping close to you for easy reference. Coupled with the Sedona Method, I highly recommend this book with confidence. It is a game changing read.
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  Amy Dale

  DNF I absolutely loved John Gray in The Secret film, and while his book covers many things I'm interested in,his writing isn't as engaging and inspiring as watching him talk about it.
  
  There wasn't really anything here I haven't read in the tons of other books like this,but for a newbie to success and manifesting,etc,it would likely be great.
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  Jinmin Lei

  I read this book several years ago. I think of it lately as I felt as mentioned in the book, my love tank must be empty due to some events happened in my life. This book is easy to understand and has opened the door to my interest in psychology.
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  Barrie

  I found this book to be the same old jargon with lots of reference to God thrown in. Too many references made it start to feel it was a preach and by the end of the book I realised I'd got next to nothing out of it. Lots of repetition too.
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  Sarah Manning

  I understand having a strong faith and I understand repetition to reinforce positive messages. If you found this book helpful, that’s great. I on the other hand felt as though I was partaking in a brainwashing exercise. Not for me.
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  Katie

  I honestly think that this book provides some profound insight about the self and how our childhood plays a huge role in how we treat ourselves. Great, insightful, fast read.
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  Sheenam Pathak

  Its good to read but I felt repetition of ideas again and again.
  
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  Rehab Qasim

  A guide book to get abundance and peace back into our life
  
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  John

  Yeah, full of chunky, easy-to-digest advice. Probably a good idea to keep it close by and refer to it regularly.