| Title | : | The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective |
| Author | : | |
| Rating | : | |
| ISBN | : | 1885904088 |
| ISBN-10 | : | 9781885904089 |
| Language | : | English |
| Format Type | : | Paperback |
| Number of Pages | : | 256 |
| Publication | : | First published August 1, 1997 |
The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective Reviews
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I am currently hosting our women's bible study & we are going through this book. I am a conservative Christian(for those of you wondering, I attend a Baptist church). I have finished 6 chapters in this book which was highly recommended. I, however, would not recommend this book to anyone, particularly if they are a non-christian or a new christian. Pearce is hypocritical as well as unrealistic in her expectations for women. She begins a chapter telling women that their purpose is to glorify God, however, she then spends the rest of the chapter instructing women that their purpose is to glorify their husbands at any cost (smacking of idol worship in my opinion). I disagree with Pearce's perspective in that she has strayed from the goal of honoring, respecting and loving one's husband and has moved to the extreme of glorifying the husband. This book is not very well written according to biblical scripture, although it quotes much of it. She does not go deeper in explaining or supporting her statements and often I believe she has either not explained herself very well, or worse, has said exactly what she means which is a skewed view of biblical principles. Many of the women in our group have felt the same and some who are married to non-Christian spouses or were single until being married for the first time in their 50's feel that this book is either an offense to their life's purpose prior to marriage, or is no help/unrealistic for the particular challenges they may face. Many have commented that most of the suggestions and teachings are quite superficial and/or unrealistic. We have decided to continue through to chapter seven, but I wouldn't be surprised if we scrap this study altogether.
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I do NOT recommend this book.
Although I do not necessarily disagree with the overall message of the book, it is delivered in a manner that, as one friend I lent the book to put it, "makes me feel bad about being a woman. She writes as though she thinks very poorly of women." Frankly, I couldn't agree more. The old adage says, "it's not what you say, it's how you say it," and that feels especially true with this book. The author may have some good things to say, but she says them in such a condescending and contentious manner, that, as a woman, I found it hard to take her seriously without feeling like a sub-human.
Also, not everything the author says seems to be truly Biblical, or at the very least, is written in such a confusing way that it was hard for me to understand the logic that led her from the scripture she references to the conclusion she comes up with and it's "practical" application for her readers.
To give an idea of what the author is like, she says at the beginning of the book that her husband suggested she write the book, so because he hadn't told her to do something sinful, she had to write the book because she had to obey him. This is in keeping with the major theme of the book, that "the wife" should be completely submissive to her husband, for this is the will of God. I am not saying that I disagree with men as the "leader of the household," but I feel that husband and wife are called to communicate with one another in openness and love when decisions are in question, and although the author does not say that it is wrong to tell your husband how you feel, she does not go very far to encourage it, or even discuss it as a possibility. Rather, she seems to focus solely on the fact that women who are following God's will should do everything their husband's tell them to - down to what temperature to set the thermostat at or how to arrange the spice cabinet, even if he never cooks -, and that a woman's first priority should be making her husband's ambitions reality. Her book would be more complete if she wrote about how to communicate your own needs, opinions, and desires in a Godly way, and then choose to take the husband's advice, out of the strength of one's spirit and desire for peace and God's will done, not out of lack of ability to make decisions.
I went through this with a group of women, and although some positive changes and discussions were generated from her book, an equal, if not disproportionate, amount of negative energy and confusion was generated. That does not seem like a good formula for a book to me. I am sure that there are books out there on this same topic that write with more love and respect toward women as a sex, and more compassion for those women who fall outside of the "typical" Christian woman mold: married to a Christian husband, with children. Indeed, I feel that I got better marriage advice from books on other topics (boundaries, communication, living a Godly life), than I got from this book. -
I'm not exactly sure what to say about this book. I read it for a very specific purpose and was about as appalled as I thought I might be. Among many questionable interpretations, the most horrifying piece was the graphic that represented a man's and woman's relationship with God as three points on a triangle. God, at the top, imbues His image on both Man and Woman. Man can offer glory to God in a direct way. However, a woman cannot glorify God, because she is created to glorify Man. Yup. Infographic = True.
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This book is really demeaning to women. My husband hated it and wanted me to throw it out - does that mean I should obey him and do it? Because I am supposed to obey my husband in all things, right? Well, in this case, I did. Chalk one up for the fire pit.
Upon reviewing my review - I realized I sounded...harsh. Some people may find this book helpful - I did not. -
Let me go on record to say that I know Christian women who couldn't handle this book. Martha Peace, full of wisdom, leads the Christian woman in freedom from judging her husband and understanding her own God-given role as a helpmeet suitable. The call of a Godly wife is mandated by God, not based upon the conduct of her husband. This is a powerful book. If you aren't ready to submit to God and submit to your own husband as unto the Lord, don't bother picking this book up.
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This book is a little tricky for me to review.
I consider myself to be a fairly conservative Christian. I would say that I am getting more conservative as I age (I'm currently 34). I grew up in an Evangelical Free church and now my husband and I attend an independent Baptist church. I believe in complementarianism (that men and women have different but complementary roles and responsibilities in marriage) and that in God's design, the husband leads the wife. I believe that before God, men and women are equal in value and that they both have a responsibility to serve and glorify him. So I'm on the same page with the underlying theological views of the author. In my circle (mostly independent Baptist churches), this book has been highly recommended, though I have good friends who struggle with it as I do.
For context, I read some isolated chapters several years ago (I remember not being a huge fan at that time) and then I went through this whole book with a group of ladies for a small group that was focused on marriage (our husbands separately went through the companion book,
The Exemplary Husband: A Biblical Perspective). I've also heard Martha Peace speak in person at a conference put on at our local seminary where I take classes for biblical counseling. I appreciated hearing her speak much more than what I read in her book. I'm not sure if it was the delivery or the content that was different (or my own heart and receptiveness)...probably a little of each.
As I think about it, there are about four main reasons reasons for which I would not recommend this book.
1. Tone - I really disliked the tone of this book. At times it was hard to put my finger on it, but I think the best way I can describe it is that it felt like the author was anticipating an antagonistic audience. Granted, the whole topic of biblical submission is a difficult one to tackle. Many people are antagonistic toward it and even someone like me who sees it taught in the Bible, struggles to accept/practice it. And the reality of that tension makes me even more disappointed that a book about it would take that tone. It's hard enough to try to be soft and receptive to hard truths without the author acting like you're a naughty child who must be scolded into submission. God didn't design biblical leadership/submission to keep women down or make them hate their lives. He designed it for good, because it represents something beautiful and pictures the relationship between Christ and the church. It's a beautiful, wonderful truth and I want to be compelled by the beauty/truth of it, not bashed over the head with it.
The book reads like a research paper with lots of lists and short sections. There's not a lot of material to connect the thoughts or flesh them out. It's just very matter of fact about what you should or shouldn't do to be an "excellent wife."
One of the things I've been paying more attention to lately is the have to vs. get to tone of Christian authors/teachers. This distinction first occurred to me between John Piper and John MacArthur. When I read John Piper, I catch a vision for the holiness and worthiness of God. That this glorious God has enlivened me so that I get to say no to sin and live a life that pleases him, in a marriage that he has designed for good purposes, is extremely motivating (by the way, his book
This Momentary Marriage: A Parable of Permanence was extremely helpful for me). Piper consistently teaches in such a way that reveals Christlikeness as a wonderful and dear prize. Maybe this is not fair, but I don't get that same sense from MacArthur. MacArthur seems to convey a sense of duty more than a sense of love. Both men teach truth the vast majority of the time and I have benefited from both, but they have very different tones.
I definitely think this book is in the "have to" camp. Be an excellent wife whether you like it or not (and you won't like it because you're a sinner and you have to get past that). I just think it's a real missed opportunity to motivate from the drudgery of duty instead of the beauty of God's design. I bet that wasn't the goal of the author and it's not that she doesn't cover God's design, but that's how it comes off to me.
Tone is highly subjective. I don't want to ruin this book for someone by pointing something out that may not bother them, but it bothered me. A lot. I know a couple other ladies who also really struggle with this book. But I also know some ladies that I highly respect who don't have these same issues so the tone probably just hits people differently.
2. Portrayal of women - I found the author to be kind of condescending and to present a vapid caricature of women. In one section about the woman being available for sex, she writes something along the lines of "If your husband wants to have sex, you can call your sister tomorrow night." As if all women have to do is have long, chatty phone calls with their sisters. She frequently refers to a woman's period and its effects on her. Maybe I'm in the minority, but I don't really deal with PMS to a large extent. My husband doesn't know when I have my period unless I tell him. The author's assumptions about how drastically our cycle affects us got tiresome (to be fair, a lady in our discussion group did mention that it does affect her fairly drastically so maybe this is just a personal beef with the book and not representative of the larger audience). But there were lots of references to things that women do or things they care about that were just kind of insulting. At times I read some of the examples to my husband and he thought they were just as ridiculous as I did.
This book was written in 1995 and my husband suggested that the author's cultural context may have unduly influenced her ideas of the typical woman. There were many times when it seemed like the author did not have a very high opinion of women.
3. Going beyond scripture/prooftexting - there were several instances in which I thought the author was going beyond scripture in her teaching. There were a few that I can specifically remember. First, the author writes that anal sex is sinful with no explanation why. I did some basic research into it and couldn't find anything in the Bible to suggest that it's sinful (obviously most people go back to Sodom and Gomorrah, but what happened there was pretty far beyond anal sex). I don't really care; I'm not advocating for anal sex, but I don't think it's helpful to put things into categories where they may not belong (especially without explanation). Second, the author writes that a woman should only make a request about something one time. After that, she should let the man decide on his own if he's going to revisit it or change his mind or whatever. I see nothing in scripture to support this. Scripture does talk of not nagging, but I think there's a lot of distance between nagging, and a woman revisiting a topic that is important to her, especially if circumstances have changed since the initial conversation. Third, the author claims that Jeremiah and Elijah were sinning in their response to God about their situations. The book of Lamentations gives vent to Jeremiah's sorrow and frustration, but I don't think God intended it to be an example of what not to do. God is not threatened by strong emotion. The Psalms are full of it. If anything, I believe God has given us these words of lament as a source of comfort and permission to come to God with our sorrow and frustration. I need to study this more, but I've never heard it taught that Jeremiah was sinning and I think to say so misses the point of that scripture.
I would also add here that I thought her view of women/marriage was rigid and didn't allow for the great variation in personality and relational differences. Even as we discussed the material in our study group, there were some women who agreed that, in their relationship, what the author described was what they experienced, while others dealt with much different dynamics in their relationships. At times I thought the author confused biblical principles with preferences/personal experience that may or may not work for individual wives/marriages. For new wives/young Christians, I think this could do a lot of damage. My husband actually prefers for me to rearrange the furniture/decor on my own and doesn't care how often I do it (he knows I enjoy it and he would rather stay out of it most of the time). Another lady in my group said her husband got mad when she rearranged some furniture without telling him first. I use this example because it's an example that the author mentions. There are a lot of grey areas and I think it's important for each couple to communicate and work out with each other the best way to handle them (within a biblical framework).
In this section I will also say that I think there were times when the verse that the author used to illustrate her point didn't always seem to follow/match.
4. It's not really about marriage - Let me explain. This book is written to help women be "excellent wives." But really, 90% of the instruction in this book applies to every Christian (man or woman). Comparatively speaking, the Bible doesn't have a ton of material written specifically to the wife. What the author has done is take instruction written to the Christian and put it in the context of a woman in a marriage. So the wife should trust God and not be anxious. This may look a certain way for a woman that is married, but it's the same command that is given to a single woman, or a man or a child. That's not bad, but it's different than you might expect. At the end of this book, my husband and I both felt that it didn't really encourage us to grow together. The books we read encouraged us to each do our own part (this book talked to the wife, his book talked to the husband), but they didn't really encourage us together. Other than the chapters having the same topics/themes, there's not a lot that would lead a married couple to feel like they're doing this together. And other than the chapters about how to confront your spouse if they're sinning, I don't really remember much in the book that encourages you to interact with your spouse about what you're learning.
I can see how this approach could be especially helpful for a woman who is in a relationship where the man does not want to work on anything. In this case, the woman should be encouraged by the fact that she can faithfully serve and obey God in her marriage even if her husband has no desire to do the same. And, honestly, this truth is important for all women. We are responsible to be faithful wives regardless of what our husbands do. This book encourages personal responsibility in marriage and does a good job at constantly reminding the reader that she can be an "excellent wife" on God's terms, even if not on her husband's terms.
There were times, though, when I felt a little irritated at how this book was arranged. I'm not sure I get more out of scriptural truths about worry or anger or sorrow in the context of a wife than I would just in the context of being a Christian. But it's true that a godly, or "excellent," wife would need to obey all the commands of scripture so it makes sense that a book about wives would include general biblical teaching. I guess it just came off as kind of contrived by the end of it.
I realize I haven't given many concrete examples to illustrate my critique. Honestly, part of this is I just don't want to search back through the book to find them. I read this over the course of a year and I didn't always mark them as I came across them and I just don't want to take the time to locate them. I also didn't want this to turn into a nit-picky review (if it isn't already) which I think I might if I include lots of examples. I wanted to give some broad, personal impressions.
I personally struggled a lot with this book. And I don't know how many times I asked my husband (and a good friend of mine who was also in the couples' study) if I was just being resistant to the material because it was hard or because I truly disagreed with the author. I'm sure it was some of both. Which is partly why I can't really recommend this book. It's already a hard topic. Even as someone who is "on board" with the main teaching that the author espouses, I had a really hard time with many of the chapters. I believe this topic can be handled in a way that is winsome and I don't think this book does it.
The book isn't all bad by any means. There were a handful of chapters that were very helpful. The author is very straightforward so if you're looking for a compilation of basic, easy to reference truths, categorized by topics/themes that relate to marriage, you may find this book helpful. The author uses a lot of charts about putting off/putting on that you may find helpful and may want to replicate in your own life (I know women who do this and who love the author's charts/graphics). The book does share biblical truth about a wife's role and she does explore many topics that will impact a wife. I wouldn't necessarily discourage someone from reading it, but I don't see myself recommending it to anyone either. When I heard that the moms' group at a local church will be studying this book my heart dropped a little. I pray that it will be a source of encouragement and biblical challenge for them and not of confusion and frustration like it was for me. I thank God that we are all growing and that he does change our hearts, even when we least expect/welcome it. It would be interesting to read this again in 10 years and see what I think of it then (though I'm not currently convinced I will pick this up again).
I guess the bottom line is that there is some good truth in this book, but I found it pretty off-putting. I blame my own heart for some of my resistance, but I know I'm not the only one who struggled with the book and based on the reasons above it's not something I could confidently recommend.
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My FAVORITE Book of all time for wives!!! I cannot say enough about this book. I was blessed to be a part of an online Bible Study with other women discussing this book in weekly lesson/discussion format. I was also doubly blessed to be able to take over the online discussion group and lead this study. This book is life-changing!! The light is taken off of the husband and focused on the wife. I learned that it wasn't my husband at fault...it was me that I needed to focus on. God changes and works in the heart of our spouses. We are resonsible for our own actions. Leave the rest to God! Very practical things to do that will transform you (wife) and bless your marriage. Totally Biblically based upon Scripture. A Must have for any wife and the married to be.
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Great book with principles for all women, married or not. I will definitely be referring to this book over and over. The addendums also are very helpful for yourself and counseling others.
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I agree in principle with much of what she said, but unfortunately her tone was condescending, her writing style poor, and her emphasis decidedly unbalanced.
Scripture is clear on the fact that the man should lead and the woman should not. The principle of submission and headship is important and biblical but it's not the foremost theme of marriage. The first mention of marriage in Scripture is as a cure for loneliness -- Adam needed a companion and a helper; the Song of Solomon never mentions the dynamic of headship and submission, but is instead about the richest and deepest companionship; marriage is a covenant of companionship (Mal. 2:14); Paul urges the wife to respect her husband and the husband to love his wife. In the context of this -- with this companionship as the foundation -- the yoke should be easy and the burden light both for the husband, when he has to take responsibility for making difficult decisions over the course of his leadership, and for the wife, on the occasions when she has to joyfully submit to those decisions.
As a wise person once said, "Along with many other true and Biblical but minor aspects - like provision and protection, and symbolizing Christ and the Church, and seeking godly offspring – these [headship and submission] are like landscaping on the mountain. The mountain itself, the theme of marriage, is COMPANIONSHIP." (MEO) -
I can NEVER recommend this book to anyone. I understand her perspective, but it is poorly written. The author condescends to readers in such an insulting way. Marriage is more complicated than she makes it seem with her lists of things to do for your husband. I was truly saddened as I read this book to think of women who are married to abusive men and think that God has called them to endure beating and berating merely because they are women and that is their lot in life. There are many other wonderful books for a Christian woman to read that will encourage and uplift. Go choose one of those!
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Some really mixed feelings on this book. While I agreed with so much of what was in the book, Peace has a tendency to state some unBiblical things regarding glorifying the husband. While most Christian women could read this and recognize some of the flaws in it, I could never recommend it to someone unless they knew what they were getting into and were ready to search out and disregard some unbiblical statements she makes. I'm sure there are more theologically sound books out there that encourage women to be submissive to leadership, serve their families, etc.
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This was required for a class, and the only reason anyone should read it should be to understand other perspectives, however outdated they may be.
This is not, however, a "Biblical" perspective of womanhood or of submitting to one's husband. This is idol worship of one's husband, this is submission outside of the context of God's design for man and woman -- it is entirely possible to be unequally yoked within a Christian marriage and this is it.
As soon as I no longer needed this book I left it on the ground as a chew toy for my rabbits, after I caught them gnawing on my Bible (oops). They would give this book a 1/5, they know bad theology when they taste it. -
I hated this book. Possibly the worst book I've ever read. Really horrible.
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Religious bondage. Pure and simple.
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Peace gives a thorough and Biblical breakdown of what it means to be an excellent wife according to God's standards and not our own. She takes Scripture and illustrates the main ideas with examples from her own life. If you want a great groundwork for what it means to be a godly wife, start reading this right away!
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Looking at reviews for this book, it seems to be quite polarizing. People either love it or hate it! And I can totally get that. As for me, I loved it, but I'd be hesitant to recommend it to someone unless I knew them really well, because it is definitely a challenging book. The author makes a lot of great, Biblical arguments, but the reason I'm not giving it 5 stars is because I wish she dove a little deeper into some of her explanations. She gives a Bible verse, and a one paragraph explanation to support her argument, and then moves on. It's assuming a lot on the part of the reader. I would only recommend this book to people that I know have a really strong Biblical foundation already, and have previously studied the role of the Biblical wife. Drawing from past studies, I was able to get a LOT out of this book (lots of great practical advice, too!) but to a new Christian, or someone who doesn't have a firm handle on Biblical doctrine, I can see this book scaring them off.
Going along with that, I think the organization of the book can add to its "difficult to swallow" nature. A lot of the one-star reviews I read said they never got past chapter 6. (I read these reviews before I made it past chapter 6, myself.) Looking at it from their perspective, I can see why they were offended and put the book down. BUT IF ONLY THEY HAD KEPT READING!! Chapter 7 addresses almost all their issues! So if you ARE reading this book, and you find it difficult to swallow, I advise to KEEP reading, and to search the Scriptures on your own, or ask a trusted friend, an older woman, someone whose knowledge of the Bible is deeper than your own, and explore these topics further.
All that being said, I really liked this book, and I will definitely read it again. A lot of the chapters had such great, practical advice that I immediately put into action in my own marriage. It's very helpful! -
If you ever want to give up your entire will and all of your senses to a codependent relationship between not only your partner, but your deity... THIS BOOK IS FOR YOU!!!! Your only job as a woman is to respond to the every whim and need of your husband. A great book for anyone to read if they have a few hours to kill and want a good laugh.
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As a Christian who is very comfortable with the concept of submission to my husband, this is... yikes.
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This is an excellent book for newly married or in between but would be very useful in marriage counseling.
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I had to suffer through reading this book twice. The first time was for a collage class and I hated it. Years later at a different Christian collage I had to read it again. I decided to give it another chance because I was at a different stage of my life. Well my opinion of this book didn't change. I hate this book. I love God's word and there is nothing Biblical about this book.
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Facilitating a study on this book. Covers the basics of biblical marriage and wifehood. Somewhat impersonal, but well-packed with scripture. Comes across a bit legalistic. It's a good book to discuss with readers, to make sure the role of God's grace in becoming an "excellent wife" is understood.
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I had to stop reading this book because it made me feel icky.
As a newly married, Christian woman, I was excited to read a book that may help me navigate the newness of my marriage and what God wants Christian marriage to truly look like.
Sadly, as I continued to read the book, I kept getting the underlying message of, “if you don’t stay home and do everything your husband says, then you can not be a Christian wife.”
I don’t claim to be an expert, but I know that’s not true. The author said that the wife’s role is to glorify her husband, and then later said to consider all the things your husband does more important than what you do. Wives submission to their husbands often gets taken out of context and gets twisted. I think this book is a clear case of that.
If you’d like to read the book, please do, but this is what I personally felt while reading it, and why I chose to stop.
I do not think that Christian wives should read this or follow it, but if you’d like to read it and make your own judgement, please do.
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SO. GOOD. I really loved the amount of scripture the author included! This was a practical and encouraging book for a new wife like myself. I appreciated the lists with ideas on how to apply certain things like serving and submitting. I did struggle a bit with the later chapters on fear and sorrow. I think I may draw the line on where those emotions cross into sin differently than the author did, but it’s definitely worth studying out! Overall, it’s a bold and sound book that I definitely want to read again in the future!
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Such a helpful resource for wives. It is PACKED with scripture and points to hard biblical truths with a lot of grace. The specific chapters in the last portion of the book are especially helpful.
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I've only read through 8 chapters so far....and so far, I've either read stuff that was good but I've heard many times elsewhere in far better books, or stuff that frankly made me mad. I agree that sometimes when truth hits us, it can make us mad at first, etc. etc. but things she says in this book are IN MY OPINION, HER opinion, and not Biblically sound. She starts off one chapter saying women should glorify God...but then changes her mind to it all be about us glorifying our husbands, not God....She blatantly states that women should work in the home or they are sinful....seriously? I think either option is good depending on the family==yes, I agree you should spend time with your kids, but you don't have to work in the home to do that and keep a neat household. She lamely "supports" this with scripture, which, again, in MY interpretation/opinion, that scripture (Proverbs 31:13-27) can be applied to women now in whatever their responsibilities are. Of COURSE in this passage it focuses on that women's work IN THE HOME because women were limited then and that's what they did (nor did we have nearly as many occupations then as we have now) and Jesus was the biggest advocates for women--so His actions and words, once He came, spun into motion a whole new change for how women were perceived and what they were "allowed" to do. So in short, there ARE some good things in this book--but you have to be wise and discerning enough to weed through the crap. Overall, I definitely would not recommend this to a non-Christian or a new Christian, and as a whole, there are better books to get that good information from. Christians and non-Christians alike-we're all people, and thus, will not be perfect nor always get things "on the head". Makes you wonder if someone, say Martha in this instance, as she (hopefully) progresses in her Christian faith, continually searching truth and further revelation from God, will one day look back on her book and go, "Eh. I kinda missed the mark on that one. Honey, I'm going to get a job now!"
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Would not recommend this book. Scripture is misused several times to uphold a patriarchal view (which I believe to be unbiblical), and to make claims about a wife's role that the cited Scriptures are not referring to. This book has a few very practical examples of ways to serve one's husband but for the most part the tone of the book is demeaning to wives/women in general, treating women as inferior to men, and indirectly discrediting a woman's ability to serve and glorify the Lord outside of marriage and serving a man. Man and woman's equality while having different and distinct roles is mentioned only by the way of stating that both are made in the image of God (true) but then the claim is made that the [only] way a wife glorifies the Lord is by glorifying her husband who glorifies the Lord. Women are also told to basically be everything their husbands want them to be and take responsibility for making sure he is satisfied in her so he doesn't cheat... Overall I don't really have much good to say about this book. While not all of it is incorrect per se a good chunk of it is and personally I disagree with most of it simply because a lot of the book consists of opinions stated as facts and are not actually biblical truths but personal convictions.
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Don't believe the reviews saying that this is a biblical perspective on marriage. This is a how to guide for domestic violence and sexual assault.
If you are a woman, this book tells you that you are less than nothing. You are the lowest form of life on this planet and your poor husband has no choice but to beat the ever loving life out of you for the salvation of the world.
If you already own this book, burn it. If you don't own this book, go buy as many copies as you can and burn them. This book actively and with intent wants women to suffer violence at the hands of men. This type of targeted handbook for abuse shouldn't be sold to the general public. It should be studied as a guide for why domestic violence and sexual abuse are perpetrated by intimate partners because it tells women that they have earned that simply by existing and they should actually be encouraging their husbands to abuse them and their daughters.
Seriously, don't believe the hype that this is any kind of Christian reading material. This book tells you that God loves everyone except women.
