Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents Reviews

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  Amanda Cotton

  If you’ve read Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Dr. Lindsay Gibson, there isn’t a whole lot new to this book, BUT unlike the other books by this author on the topic, this book is set up like a workbook which is very new to Dr. Gibson’s books. This book is full of short, approachable sections highlighting a single trait or case study of an emotionally immature person. Though the idea is to recognize the EIP’s you’ve gravitated towards as a result of being raise by an EIP, many of the case studies do involve the parents. That being said, the case studies are so multifaceted and diverse that everyone can find helpful insights here. Each chapter ends with strategies and tips for navigating similar situations as well as som questions designed for further consideration about the EIPs you’re working to disentangle from. If you don’t necessarily have EIPs who baffle and bewilder you that you feel the need to disentangle from, you may not find this book as helpful.
  
  I personally would recommend approaching this book with a separate journal so you can return to this book over and over and also, so you can consider multiple EIPs as you’re working through it.
  
  I’d like to thank New Harbinger Publications and NetGalley for the advanced copy of this book in exchange for my honest feedback. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
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  Megan Vick

  Favorite Quote: Integrity is meaningless when your highest good lies in your immediate advantage of the moment. Integrity can’t be sustained in a person who privileges their feelings over factual reality.
  
  The fourth book in Gibson’s Emotionally Immature series, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People, expands the discussion from parents to all emotionally immature people in your life. In previous books, Gibson outlined what emotionally immature parents acted like and how that may have affected you as a child. Then, she extrapolates by sharing common behaviors and thought patterns of adult children of emotionally immature parents. Now, Gibson helps you look at many of the types of emotionally immature people you may encounter and gives you reflections and exercises to help deal with those personalities more effectively.
  
  From the first book, I was able to see how the discussion around EI parents could apply to any EI adult. This book, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People, goes much deeper into the behaviors and reactions of EI people to equip you with ways of dealing with them. Ultimately, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People is about setting boundaries and allowing you the space to reflect on how your boundaries are right for you, not the EI person. Anyone dealing with draining family members, friends, colleagues, or neighbors will greatly benefit from reading this - or any - of Dr Gibson’s books!
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  Rich

  Lindsay Gibson's previous books about Emotionally Immature People/Parents are must-reads, and her new book, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People, is no different. There are few books I've read in my lifetime that I consider life-changing, and Lindsay Gibson's books have come to earn that distinction from me.
  
  If you had a childhood where you were expected to take care of adults or be responsible before it was developmentally appropriate, consider yourself a people pleaser or someone who has difficulty making your feelings and needs a priority, and/or if you have come across people who seem to be all about themselves and put off by any attempts to connect emotionally, you'll want to read Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People.
  
  Unlike her previous books, this one is written as a workbook-style reference guide with strategies, self reflection questions, and tips. Have a specific question like "How would I know if someone is emotionally immature?" or a thought like "I know they're acting crazy, but I don't know how to respond when they're being absurd?" These can be addressed easily by finding the right page in the table of contents. There are also useful appendices at the end that help readers compare emotional immaturity and maturity, define characteristics of emotionally immature people, and a Bill of Rights for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.
  
  Since we all demonstrate varying levels of maturity for a variety of reasons, I highly recommend keeping a copy of Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People on your shelf to reference as needed.
  
  Thank you to NetGalley and New Harbinger Publications for a copy.
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  Ginger

  I took this book to heart, as an adult child of an emotionally immature parent. Infact, that book of Lindsay's is one that I greatly consider therapeutic in my own personal life along with now this one. For anyone who struggles with boundaries, for anyone who finds themselves amongst toxic or dysfunctional family members, friends or coworkers, I strongly recommend this book for your own well being.
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  Sheryl Maupin

  First off, I have read the other book by this author “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents”. And there is not one week that goes by that I don’t recommend this book, pull it off my shelve to quote, or use it for activities. I will buy this book for that as well. Highly recommend.
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  Carolyn Amate

  A very useful Workbook type of book for people that come from emotionally manipulative or immature families.