Title | : | That Little Voice In Your Head: Adjust the Code That Runs Your Brain |
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ISBN | : | 152906614X |
ISBN-10 | : | 9781529066142 |
Language | : | English |
Format Type | : | Paperback |
Number of Pages | : | 400 |
Publication | : | Published May 24, 2022 |
That Little Voice in Your Head is the practical guide to retraining your brain for optimal joy by Mo Gawdat, the internationally bestselling author of Solve for Happy. Mo reveals how by beating negative self-talk, we can change our thought processes, turning our greed into generosity, our apathy into compassion and investing in our own happiness.
This book provides readers with exercises to help reshape their mental processes. Drawing on his expertise in programming and his knowledge of neuroscience, Mo explains how – despite their incredible complexity – our brains behave in ways that are largely predictable. From these insights, he delivers this user manual for happiness.
Inspired by the life of his late son, Ali, Mo Gawdat has set out to share a model for happiness based on generosity and empathy towards ourselves and others. Using his experience as a former Google engineer and Chief Business Officer, Mo shares his 'code' for reprogramming our brain and moving away from the misconceptions modern life gives us.
That Little Voice In Your Head: Adjust the Code That Runs Your Brain Reviews
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I picked up this book after reading Solve for Happy. This was another interesting reading. Being a Buddhist most of the concepts he talks about are not new to me. But it's still interesting to look at them from another perspective and explore the ideas further by integrating them into our practical lives. A good read especially when you are going through a tough time. Even if you are not, I'd recommend reading this book. It's best to take your time while reading it!
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الطفيلي الأكثر مرونة
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فيلمي المفضل على الإطلاق هو Inception ، في المشهد الأول من هذا الفيلم يسأل ليوناردو دي كابريو: "ما هو الطفيلي الأكثر مرونة؟ بكتيريا؟ فايروس؟ دودة معوية؟ "يتوقف لبضع ثوان ثم يقدم الإجابة: فكرة ... إنها مرنة ، وشديدة العدوى ، بمجرد أن تسيطر فكرة على الدماغ يكاد يكون من المستحيل القضاء عليها".
لقد عشت مع هذا الطفيلي لسنوات. أعلم الآن أنه ليس من المستحيل القضاء على الأفكار ، لكنني بالتأكيد أوافق على أن الفكرة - الفكرة السلبية تحديداً - هي طفيلي مرن للغاية. لستَ بحاجة إلى أن تكون عالمًا بدرجة دكتوراه وعناوين كتب لامعة في الأخبار لتعرف أن هذا صحيح. كل ما تحتاجه هو أن تتذكر صديقًا لك كان مهووسًا بفكرة لأيام أو أسابيع أو سنوات ويشعر بالحزن نتيجة لذلك. ربما كنت أنت المهووس. يعتقد أحدهم أن التمسك بعمق بفكرة ما في رؤوسنا ، يمكن أن يكلفنا سنوات - وحتى مدى الحياة - من المعاناة.
وجدت في بحثي أن الأفكار ، والأفكار فقط ، لها التأثير الأكبر على سعادتنا. يؤثر الصوت الخفيف في رؤوسنا على مزاجنا أكثر من بعض أقسى الظروف التي نتحملها في الحياة.
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Mo Gawdat
The Little Voice In Your Head
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As adauga-o pe lista cărților de citit intr-o viața, atat de utila si aplicată mi se pare.
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best book to read whilst going through a tough time, or even just in general! complete mindset shift - I love mo so much <3
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I am a huge fan of Mo Gawdat and love everything he has done and is doing to make the world a happier place. I love the practicality of this book and will be returning to the exercises again and again.
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Not a great read but definitely some interesting ideas. My biggest problem was that he is quite selective with his scientific evidence. If prefer it if he'd write it up as either his personal ideas/experience or give a nuanced overview of the complexity of neurobiological research. Definitely some cherry picking here and there.
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Contains many helpful prompts for a happier life, some of which I have directly put into action and some of which I want to try in the future.
Was a bit lengthy and repetitive at times, I would have preferred to have the main messages condensed into 2/3 of the pages.
I'd definitely recommend it to anyone who is at a low point in their life and wants to become a happier person. If you follow the exercises throughout the book, you're basically guaranteed to see some improvement of your situation. -
I didn't get anything new from this book to try - maybe you can not, in fact, hard work out of depression. Lengthy and repetitive but suitable for beginners, so I'll give it 2/5 stars.
Considered three stars, but when it went down the path of thinking back to your earliest memories and being a child, free of responsibilities, expectations, and other pressures? I was like - you guys had a childhood? Didn't you have trauma or anything? WHY CAN'T YOU GUYS JUST BE BETTER AT BEING HAPPY? YOU DON'T HAVE SERIOUS GENERATIONAL PROBLEMS; COME ON.
Takeaways:
- You are more than your thoughts
- Separate your identity from your brain byproducts
- Write down your thoughts and your thoughts about your thoughts to start troubleshooting
- The four types of input that can wreak havoc are conditioning, old thoughts, pent-up emotions, and hidden triggers. They all connect to beliefs you have formed based on all you’ve experienced throughout life. -
Learn from a top computer scientist how to reprogram your brain for a happier life.
Think back to your earliest memories. Can you recall being a child, free of responsibilities, expectations, and other pressures? Oh, to be that happy again!
Did you know we can reset and retrain our brains to our “default state” of happiness?
That’s a guiding principle for former Google X top executive and computer scientist Mo Gawdat, who studies and promotes the concept of happiness, including his third best seller, That Little Voice in Your Head. In it, he offers a “user’s manual” for our brains, which includes many exercises for preventive maintenance and debugging issues to achieve a happy state.
Gawdat combines his experience in computer science with neuroscience research to lay out a model of the brain and its functions like one would, with a computer and its software. He adds many personal insights and anecdotes for relatability and relevance – chief among them the death of his son, Ali, which inspired him to refocus his life’s work on helping people find happiness. He even founded a movement called One Billion Happy. Perhaps you’ll be one of those one billion after finishing this book – or at least be on your way toward it.
Gawdat asserts that the key to happiness is a better understanding of the parts of the brain’s operating system and the programs it runs – or rather, our thoughts and what causes them. With that, you can accurately identify when and where to intervene and make adjustments. While we’ll only cover parts of Gawdat’s user’s manual, you’ll get insights and exercises you can put to work immediately.
Grab a pen and paper or your notes app. You’ll need them for a few quick exercises we’ll do as we go.
Let’s take a look at your operating system.
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You control your thoughts – which do not define you
Before we go any farther, there’s one concept you must accept: You are in control of your brain just as you are a computer, and that includes the messages it sends. The essence of “you” is more than just your thoughts.
While Gawdat credits the brain with being a marvelous machine, he says it’s like any other organ in the body in that it processes and produces things. Just as the lungs take oxygen from the air and expel carbon dioxide, the brain takes input and produces thoughts. Now, you don’t think of “yourself” as carbon dioxide, do you? The same should go for thoughts.
While we are making sure you separate your identity from your brain’s byproducts, also consider this: You can observe your thoughts. So, if you were merely your thoughts and nothing more, there would be no need for an internal voice to communicate anything — you’d already know. To Gawdat, it’s more proof that while the brain is critically important, it’s not all of you.
This leads to the hopeful conclusion that you have power over your thoughts. That little voice in your head? Well, you don't have to do anything it says. You can choose not to listen to it at all! Better yet, you can train it to think in ways that bring happiness to you and, potentially, the whole world.
Feeling empowered? Great. As promised, we’ll start with the top-level operations of our brains, so you can begin to identify what needs attention. Gawdat starts with a basic concept — an operational diagram — of how all computational systems operate. While he expands on it with a model that’s more complex, we’ll stick with the simple one to keep things brief.
First, we have inputs. They account for all the information that you put into a system. Next are processes, which describe what a system does with its inputs. Finally, there are outputs — whatever those inputs and processes produce.
If you are looking for happiness in life, then it’s likely you aren’t entirely pleased with your output. You may have tried a few things in your processes with no big improvements. With a computer, that would be like updating software, yet the machine still runs slowly. For you, maybe you’ve picked up meditating or established an exercise routine yet still are not feeling it, much less seeing results. Don’t worry. We’re getting there.
Let’s start at the beginning of the operational diagram to consider what may be happening with your inputs. Here’s a quick exercise to prime your mind. Take five minutes in a quiet spot and reflect on the past week. Jot down everything you can recall hearing, seeing, experiencing, or even feeling. and any thoughts you may have had about them. That’s it!
Keep your list. You’ll want to return to it after we look at the various things happening in your brain that can cause trouble.
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Start troubleshooting the four reasons our brains can cause unhappiness
Count down from four slowly. Four. Three. Two. One.
Gawdat says there are four main reasons our brains can cause unhappiness, and understanding them will help you troubleshoot when it happens. The countdown also helps you to remember the details of each. There are four types of faulty inputs, three defense mechanisms, two “polarities,” and one bad type of thought.
As we just covered, inputs are all the information that enters your brain. If you don’t like your output in your life, look closely at what you’re allowing into it.
The four types of input that can wreak havoc are conditioning, old thoughts, pent-up emotions, and hidden triggers. They all connect to beliefs you have formed based on all you’ve experienced throughout life. The first three are similar in that they’re internal. A big problem with all of them is that they aren’t always true. The fourth, hidden triggers, refers to all the messages you take in from sources around you, like violence and consumerism in the media or even well-meaning advice from a loved one.
The next reason our brains may cause unhappiness – number three in our countdown – is our three defense mechanisms. Gawdat turns to neuroscience to explain how our brains function in these ways. We have deep neurological responses like those of other animals, starting with our “reptilian brain,” which helps us avoid threats. Our “mammalian brain” leads us to seek pleasure and not pain. Last, we have our advanced “rational brain” that helps us do the complex things that other animals cannot do, like program computers or write books.
They all serve important purposes, yet can cause trouble when they have too much influence. For example, avoiding any hint of danger can get us stuck completely in reptile-brain mode. Always prioritizing pleasure with our mammalian brain can cause us to hang on to things and people that no longer serve us. Now, you may think the rational brain could solve all of that, but not so fast! Overanalyzing can make us think negatively and feel generally dissatisfied with everything.
Now for the two polarities. You’ve probably heard about them before — the right brain and the left brain. Gawdat compares them to the separate processors in computers, where one handles vivid graphics, while the other focuses on numbers and tasks. Studies show the right side of the brain fires when we are processing creative and emotional matters, while the left lights up as we tackle structured things like strategy and organization. Just like a computer, we need both processors to work optimally and evenly. Outputs aren’t so great when they do not.We are down to the “one” in the countdown: It’s the one thought – or type of thought – that causes unhappiness in our brains. Gawdat calls it “incessant thinking,” or rumination, a word he explains comes from ruminant animals, like cows or sheep, described as such because they throw up their food to continue consuming it. While that sounds pretty gross, it’s useful for them. It is not for you and your thoughts, especially if they’re harmful. If you keep repeating a negative thought, it becomes part of your program and affects everything you do.
Now that we’ve covered the four causes, let’s get to the fun part: debugging.
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Use questioning and new habits to debug your brain
We just covered the four main reasons your brain can make you unhappy, complete with a handy countdown to call them up as needed. Remember “4, 3, 2, 1” every time you sense a problem in your operating system.
To counter them, Gawdat offers many exercises for awareness and to reprogram your mind for better outputs.
The four faulty inputs — conditioning, old thoughts, hampered emotions, and hidden triggers — can be addressed by developing a practice of questioning yourself, if you aren’t already doing so. Take the list of thoughts from the first section’s exercise. Put them to the test with questions like, “Is this belief serving me?”, “Where might that thought have come from?”, and “Is this belief even true?”
You can take a similar approach to confronting your reptilian brain. Question yourself about the actual danger level of a situation, and gauge your overall safety. Are you facing a matter of life and death? Can you think of other people who endured what you consider a worst-case scenario and yet came out better for it? Frequently reminding your brain how safe you actually are will balance your avoidant instinct.
Questioning exercises will also shut down the incessant thinking, or rumination. When the little voice starts talking, let it go. When it stops, ask it for another thought – a different one. Give yourself 25 minutes; set an alarm. According to Gawdat, eventually the voice shuts up simply because you’re paying attention to it.
In addition to questioning, you can also create other habits to balance or reverse problems. To address the fourth faulty input, hidden triggers, try reducing your exposure to mass media, to desensitizing violence in shows and games, and to celebrity gossip. Just cutting them out may make you more aware of their influence. Gawdat, for example, eliminated any movies with violence or gore and limited his news intake to just headlines every three days.
Since we know our pleasure-seeking, pain-avoiding mammalian brain can cause attachment issues, it’s a good idea to start getting rid of some of your stuff. Routinely purging things you don’t need will get you in the habit of weeding out other things, too – like thoughts and scenarios that don’t serve you. For example, Gawdat says he allots an hour each Saturday to choose 10 items to give away.
As for balancing your polarities, practice using both sides of your brain as you confront challenges. Start by examining an issue from all angles to become fully aware of it before you do anything. Gather all the information you can, then act. Gawdat calls it “Be. Learn. Do.”
Remember that you have the power to dig into what is motivating your thoughts, emotions, and choices. Don’t fall into a spiral of self-doubt. Instead, use a healthy dose of skepticism to develop awareness about why you think and feel the way you do. It will build confidence in who you are and inform your next moves as you seek to improve.
Once you’ve started to control and eliminate the neural reasons for suffering, you’re ready for more advanced programming to fully optimize your brain and life experience.
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Optimize your brain, and have a positive impact on the world, through useful thinking
When you think of someone achieving the ultimate state of bliss, your mind may go to a Zen Buddhist monk who has mastered the practice of meditation and quieting the mind. While that is a good example, it’s not practical for most of us to dedicate several hours a day to traditional meditation as monks do. Plus, it isn’t the only way to happiness.
Meditation is a useful tool to calm the mind and stop rumination, which we now know is a leading cause of unhappiness. But what do you do when you simply can’t shut out the world for extended periods of time?
Gawdat calls it “useful thinking,” and identifies four types. Just like joyful thoughts, they also push negative thinking out of the way, because your brain can only truly focus on one thing at a time. What’s more, they’re possibly even better than a quiet mind because of their ability to help others. If you can train your brain to focus only on joyful thoughts plus these four, think away!
First, there’s “experiential thinking,” or practicing mindfulness. You can do small, intentional things every day to focus your senses on the world around you, like seeking out a beautiful scene on your morning walk or listening only to your favorite music on your commute. This also works for turning your focus inward to examine emotions you’re experiencing or doing an inventory of how each part of your body is feeling.
Next is solving problems. If you’re good at it, you’re probably highly favored at work. This can also be used in your personal life. Gawdat offers a series of questions you can use each time you encounter a challenging thought or issue, starting with “Is it true?” followed by “Can I do something about it?” and, finally, “Can I accept and commit?” The actions to take after the first two questions may seem obvious. If it’s not true, let it go. If you can do something, do it. Accepting and committing to that acceptance is your only option when you can’t do anything to change a situation.
Third, there’s flow, which means you’re so into whatever you’re doing that you feel happy and highly skilled, and lose track of time. You can practice this by taking a skill you already have and like, making a project slightly harder than it has to be, then reducing it to tiny tasks. Take each task one by one, and don’t limit your time.
Last, we have giving, which can be anything from a smile or compliment to volunteering your time or making a donation. Many scientific studies have shown that giving increases our own happiness dramatically. When you give, you can’t lose.
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You can approach your path to happiness like a computer scientist would troubleshoot an operating system and its software, examining your brain’s inputs and processes. You are not the sum of your thoughts but actually separate from them, and therefore have the power to control, change, or replace them.
There are four main reasons our brains can cause us to struggle: four faulty inputs, three defense mechanisms, two polarities, and one type of malicious, repetitive thought. Each of these problem areas can be addressed with consistent practices that include questioning ourselves, and other habits that increase our awareness and establish new thought patterns.
And finally, you can optimize your brain’s performance, your happiness, and the lives of others with useful thinking, focusing on experiences, problem-solving, achieving a flow state, and giving. -
It's so good, I will probably read it again
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To me this is a more practical approach to Gawdat’s book “solve for happy”. Which I already reviewed.
Again I listened to the audiobook narrated by the writer himself. Eventhough it is a workbook with tons of excercizes, using the audiobook was more practical for me. The excersizes become more interactive, since I could do them while traveling to work.
I also own a copy of the book itself, which I use as a reference book.
The theory that Gawdad uses to explain our thought process and the influence it has on our state of being, proved very helpful to me. This is why I will come back to this book to actively improve my thinking and mindset.
I really recommend this book to anyone who wants to find ways to improve their daily lives. -
Este libro habla mas allá de la búsqueda constante de la felicidad. Habla sobre programar a tu cerbero para sentir tanto felicidad como infelicidad, pero sin estancarte en la infelicidad. Nos da herramientas para procesar los malos momentos y encontrar una felicidad constante.
Sin embargo, no estoy muy de acuerdo con muchas ideas del libro, mi forma de pensar no comparte las mismas ideas en varias ocasiones.
En algún momento el escrito condena a todos los humanos actuales a la infelicidad debido al estilo de vida que se lleva en el mundo moderno; políticos corruptos, demasiada pobreza, redes sociales que solo buscan vender, tendencias etc.
Entiendo que el porcentaje de gente feliz hoy en día sea menor, debido que a comparación de épocas pasadas estemos sometidos a más estrés y a más dificultades que antes. Sin embargo en vez de nadar en contra del mundo y la sociedad en sí, deberíamos aprender que a pesar de todas las adversidades que conlleva hoy existir, uno es feliz (al menos en mi caso puedo decirlo) y si es cierto que el mundo carece de gente feliz, el usar todos los procesos del libro va hacer una diferencia notoria; tanto en tu vida como en la sociedad. Pero para eso no es necesario estar en contra de la modernidad.
Por otro lado, me parece hermoso la parte de cómo anatómicamente juntarse con gente feliz nos hace producir las mismas hormonas y sustancias de felicidad.
Por ello debemos rodearnos de gente que nos sume. Y situaciones que nos sumen también.
Sin embargo peleo mucho que no puedo dejar de hacer cosas que no me hacen feliz, y que el seguir haciéndolas me hace una persona sumida en la infelicidad. Porque hay cosas que simplemente SE TIENEN QUE HACER. Por ejemplo; ir a la escuela no siempre me suma felicidad, tomar ciertas materias incluso me provocan ansiedad, frustración e infelicidad. Pero no por eso dejo de ir a la escuela, porque es algo que tengo que hacer para poder hacer algo que me haga feliz, que sería entrar a la Universidad (esto en mi caso, pero doy por hecho que cada quien tiene su historia)
Mi mejor parte, la que necesitaba escuchar y la que sin duda me llevo atesorada del libro. Es la teoría del “Flujo” es decir el estado de “no-mente” como deportista y estudiante puedo confirmar por ambas disciplinas que es real. Que existe, y como cita el libro “desearás quedarte ahí el resto de tu vida” -
تغيرت حياة محمد جودت بعدما توفي ابنه الشاب أثناء اجراء عملية جراحية، ألم الفقد حوله إلى شخص يقدر الحياة، يسعى لنشر مفهوم السعادة حول العالم، استفاد من خبرته التكنولوجية وهو المدير السابق في جوجل ليطلق تطبيقًا يخص رسالته، بودكاست، عدة كتب جميعها بالانجليزية أولها Solve for happiness
في هذا الكتاب يشدد جودت على أهمية التحكم بالأفكار، فالمعاناة كما يراها هي اختيار بحت! وتملك العقل لفكرة ما لا يعني بالضرورة تعبيرها عمن نكونه!
يشرح المؤلف بايضاح علمي بسيط كيفية تشكل الافكار المؤلمة، أثرها على ما نعتنقه، والخيار خيارنا بالرغبة في التغير.
BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD .
هنا دعوة إلى فلترة ما ومن لا نحتاجه، الاستثمار في السعادة بالابتعا�� عن السيناريوهات المستقبلية مثلًا، التخلي عن أي تعلق، ممارسة الامتنان و عيش الحرية بمعناها الحرفي.
BE BEFORE YOU LEARN AND LEARN BEFORE YOU DO.
الكتاب يحوي تمارين لطيفة تساعد في تسلسلها على استيعاب ذاك الصوت الصغير في عقولنا المفضي لتوقعات من الحياة والناس تصيبنا بالاحباط فالاكتئاب.
لمحمد جودت مقابلة ملهمة مع أنس بوخش في #abtaks, عدد فيها كم اللغات المترجم إليها كتبه، دون العربية! مما لم أفهمه وهو المصري الجنسية والأصول ؟!
رحلة جودت تشابه الكثيرين في هذا العالم، حدث ما، صدمة، انتكاسة لمرض او فقد، تقلب الدنيا في الروح، القلب والعقل، حتى الجسد. -
Unbelievably practical!
I love Mo’s books 📚 starting with “solve for happy”
This one truly kicked it out of the park 🤩👍
if there ever was a practical guide book on how to harness your brain/mind and make it a happier version that serves you, rather than protects you from imagined disasters, this is THAT guidebook.
As I read it, I strongly contemplated that I should make a Hungarian translation for it.
I believe it is worth not only your efforts to read it, but my efforts to make it accessible to Hungarian readers .
This book is not only a five star read on my shelf, but just like “Solve for Happy 😊 “, a must re-read every one to two years.
Practice makes perfect, and the practice is in the book is probably more value to your daily life but all the Netflix series you watched over the past five years .
Please invest your time into reading/listening to this book.
Your brain will thank you for it 👍😊❤️
This book became one of the top contenders in my own “book of the year” contest. Cannot recommend it highly enough !!! ⬆️🔝🔝🔝⬆️ -
The decision to have this book in an audio format was probably not the best. The anecdotes are interesting and the path of the author is geniune and inspiring, but it serves way better as a manual for practices that can increase the happiness level if one is willing to take the time, use the instructions meticulously and take a look at the graphs and illustrations that would have fit more naturally in a paper format which would have insured better results than just listening to the monologue of Gawdat on the commute or while cooking dinner (which to me are the justifying utilities for having audiobooks in the first place.
Conclusion: until I take the time to listen like a good student and try and focus solely on the content and instructions of the book as it was intended, I give it a neutral rating while hoping to go back to it soon; the computer/AI/software allegories were quite interesting and to a lay person like myself, somewhat eye opening. -
The way this was packaged was refeshingly innovative and simple to understand.
Basically, it teaches us to be mindful in the present and debugging or removing negative thoughts and emotions by being rationally aware and analytical of ourselves considering genetic, geneder and other factors and lastly, useful/purposeful thinking by capitalizing ourr flow state (discover it and break it into chunks throughout our lives). I also like the spritiaul aspect of it wherein we give to others.
I adopt this in my life with my subordinates and beyond. As an innovative creators, many versions are spread to others as they used them templates so my anonymous contribution to the world goes beyond me. -
So much good practice and ideas in this book I can only recommended highly. The idea of a voice in our head seems to be something that most of us have had a conversations with but it never dawned on me that that was not me. Are there some answers in theses pages to why some people can have dreadful life circumstance and endure horrible tragedies and still see life as a gift while others who have never really wanted for anything see their life as triages. Mo's passion and mission to make a billion people happy shines through the pages of the practical guide to life.
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A sort of continuation of Solve for Happy book but goes more in depth and in practical side of things. There are many good parts, it is aligned with what majority of books on this topic propose. I dislike thought author’s narration style, it is too slow, too theatrical at time and he does sound like “I know it all” kind of guy at times. Despite that, I would recommend this book to almost anyone striving to have a happier life, so everyone 😜
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I am going to shout loudly about this book and how good it is to everyone! It’s helped me so much!! I will be referring back to this frequently to follow its helpful guidance and exercises.
I love how Mo Gawdat writes and I now want to read Solve For Happy and Scary Smart.
Thank you to Mo and his son, Ali, for this amazing happiness handbook. It’s much needed in the world - now more than ever.
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Rob Archangel (of Archangel Ink) sent me Mo Gawdat's latest book to review, so I skimmed it. Gawdat's son died at 21. The book is a collection of stoic, Buddhist, and TED Talk philosophy. You could do worse, though I do think Gawdat is wrong about AI and consciousness. That Little Voice is uncomfortably like watching him struggle to mourn.
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Una gran lectura para tener más consciencia, saber interpretar mucho mejor nuestro cerebro y nuestras emociones.
Nos proponen ejercicios prácticos, muy simples pero que nos pueden aportar un gran valor.
Es un libro que se nota que está escrito desde el corazón y si sabemos cómo aplicarlo nos puede hacer crecer como personas. -
Very interesting and insightful book, but remains pretty basic in terms of depth. Great to kickstart a personal-development journey.
Still recommend to read for everyone as there’s so very interesting parts in it such as with the feminine and masculine brain deconstruct.