Side Affects: On Being Trans and Feeling Bad by Hil Malatino

Side Affects: On Being Trans and Feeling Bad Reviews

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  Alexis Hall

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  This is a really difficult book to talk about, because I’m conscious of my lack of standing, the subject matter is intense and painful, and the style tends towards the remorselessly academic. Which makes it hard to recommend as anything other than a work of scholarship. As a work of scholarship, though … well, I don’t really have standing to assess that *either*. I’m increasingly wondering why on earth I was approved for this. Still, for what little my judgement counts for given that I’m utter layperson, Side Affects struck me as deeply compelling.
  
  Forgive me from the brutalisation of what a complex premise: but essentially Side Affects is essentially an exploration of some the negative emotions attendant upon being trans, emotions that—Malatino argues—are often denied or minimised in pursuit of a standardised, simplified trans story i.e. of trauma followed by medical intervention followed by happiness. While it’s a very different book, in both focus and approach, to The Transgender Issue (and anyone looking for in the other stands to be if not disappointed then at least somewhat confused) what these two texts do have in common is a commitment to the creation of narratives of transness that are neither framed by nor answerable to those pre-defined by an inescapably transphobic cultural context.
  
  I struggled most—as a randomer who picked up a scholarly work—in the early parts of Side Affects, since these are the sections that seemed to me to be the most inseparable from academic discourse. Which is not to say there’s anything wrong with academic discourse but, ye gods—and I realise this is slightly hypocritical coming from me—is there a tendency to use six-hundred-and-seventy words instead of forty. And that’s not to say the language is imprecise, or even impenetrable, it’s just … there’s a lot of it? I mean, I’ve never seen ‘bifurcated’ so many times in a single book. To take an example,
  
  

  When is one “post” transition? Who experiences such unity between feeling and perception, given how radically thrown—nonsovereign, out of one’s control—modes of intersubjective corporeal perception are? Is there ever an experience of subjectivity-in-sociality that isn’t, to some (significant) extent, shaped by dissonance and misrecognition, particularly if, as Berlant reminds us, “recognition is the misrecognition you can bear?” Is there ever a moment where we are—transparently, in all our complexity, intuitively and deeply—known by those others we share space with? Where those others understand our bodyminds in precisely the ways in which we desire them to? Even if such moments are possible, or at least feel possible, that doesn’t erase the prior years of consistent dissonance, misgendering, and misrecognition, nor does it easily transform the anxiety and fear that one cultivates as a product of living through (routine, quotidian, incessant) moments.

  
  
  *breathes*
  
  Now, I either adapted or, its following chapters, Side Affects moved into an academic mould I find more personally accessible: that of critical analysis of various books, documentaries, and other pieces of media. Either way, from Numbness onwards (the book is structured around a succession of negative emotions—Fatigue, Numbness, Envy, Rage, Burnout—before focusing on questions of healing and resilience, and the ways that they too can reinforce problematic hegemonies) I felt like a more useful recipient of what this book was telling me.
  
  In particular, I was able to see past the nature of the language to recognise the passion that exists alongside it. Not, I hasten to add, that any writer is required to show me their passion before I’ll listen to what they’re saying. I think I just wasn’t quite prepared for an academic text to … move me? Illuminate me, education me, interest me, certainly. But in the end I did find Side Affects quite beautiful: it’s an unabashedly intellectual book with an equally unabashedly emotional heart. And, this may not be how one is supposed to assess scholarship, but I kind of loved it for that.
  
  

  Together, we imagined a possibility instead of an ending. This is the real story of bodies. Movement, joy, and release into new configurations. Our bodies do not need to be perfect or exactly as they were when we were born. We are not ruled by the shape we arrive in. We adapt, heal, and expand. Our bodies are not an ending, but a beginning. This is a truth I am willing to die for.
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  Corvus

  I always have a difficult time knowing how I should review texts written in such a heavily academic fashion as Hil Matino's
  Side Affects: On Being Trans and Feeling Bad. If I'm reading a biology article, it makes sense to me when I struggle to understand parts of it as I am not a biologist. When the topic regards trans feelings and experiences though, I ask myself if most trans people would be able to read it or if they would want to. A book like this takes twice as long to read and requires a dictionary for me even though I have a somewhat academic background and experience with this subject matter in my own life. Despite my thinking that a ton of trans people from varying backgrounds could benefit from relating to this and a ton of cis people could benefit from better understanding these complexities of human experience, I don't think most will choose or be able to. I decided that I would put this statement at the beginning and review the rest of the book as the scholarly work that it is.
  
  Despite this book being so heavy with gender studies jargon, I found Malatino's writing style to be quite poetic and enjoyable to read. He has a way with blending personal experience as a transmasculine person into a larger narrative of what other transmasc folks may face as well as trans people from many other backgrounds and identities. (Keep in mind, not all AFAB trans people, including trans men, identify as transmasculine, I am using the term specifically here.) During the first half of the book, I was completely immersed in how Malatino conveyed exactly what I have felt and thought so many times throughout my own life and transition. He included things I and trans friends have said in personal conversations that I sometimes fear saying in the larger world.
  
  The general thesis is that- like all humans- our experiences are very complex and varied. Furthermore, we often feel bad about parts of our transition from dysphoria, desire, envy, disappointment, loneliness, discomfort, betrayal, isolation, and a multitude of other un-fun feelings to deal with. However, in a society full of paradigms and people that would rather we not exist, or worse, we often feel the need to be publicly glued to some simplistic narrative where everything is very clear cut, we have a very clear "before" and "after," and where we are just like cis people only trans. We fear that if we are honest about things, those who seek to invalidate, destroy, or criticize our humanity will gain ground. We fear that we will lose community, lose our history or future, and lose ourselves if we are not in line with the overarching message of x transgender movement or even our trans friends and communities. In this book, Malatino focuses specifically on the feelings fatigue, numbness, envy, rage, and burnout.
  
  I can see why Torrey Peters has a quote listed on the publisher's page for this book. I adored, "Detransition Baby," as did friends of mine. Many other people, trans and not, hated it. It's a messy book full of messy trans feelings and experiences- especially the kinds we're never supposed to say out loud- often because we disagree with ourselves or hate to admit we think or feel a certain way. I like these texts because they allow us all to be truly human. That's the toughest stuff to deal with when we talk about liberation. We're all fucked up. Malatino uses both fiction and non-fiction written by trans people to form his analyses about these emotions and experiences. This blend of sources fits with the book well as both fiction and nonfiction have excellent and differing ways of telling the truth.
  
  I doubt you will find the same cries of oppression that Peters' polarizing novel sometimes invoked in response to Side Affects because academic analysis remains more detached from emotion for many people. But, that doesn't mean he didn't hit on very deep seated thoughts and feelings that many of us grapple with every day. We cannot be forced into the boxes that both cis and trans people try to fit us all into. Hell, most cis people can't fit into the boxes they create.
  
  There were some very interesting glimpses into history that I had never heard about. Learning about Rupert Raj and Dallas Denny in the sections on burnout were interesting editions to an already critically important topic. The section "On Whiteness and Healing," there are multiple explorations of appropriation, racism, eugenics, colonization, etc. But, what really stuck out to me was learning about how people I would normally associate with hippy, love everybody culture could often be ridiculously fascist in their desire to abolish queerness or gender variance through things like psychedelic drug treatments. What a wild ride.
  
  All in all, this short little academic exercise hit me in much more intimate ways than I initially anticipated. It packs a lot into around 100 pages not including notes and acknowledgements. Malatino used that space efficiently. If you're willing to take your time and google those academic words you've never heard of, I definitely think this book is worth it. It's a great thought exercise even in the spots where I don't entirely agree. I am eager to see what other people think once it's out and reaches a larger audience.
  
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  Sage Agee

  I felt very seen, as a trans person with depression who has an intimate relationship with suicidality— to have these feelings contextualized within the greater scheme of transphobia and misogyny was great. I both loved and hated how referential it was to other texts (many works of fiction), because it felt like huge portions were just being told the plot of Little Fish. Which, I mean, is mostly great.
  
  I don’t think i agree with the Tolstoy quote at the end, happiness and euphoria aren’t that boring and I would argue that the pain and suffering we experience due to hate and violence against us is way more boring.
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  Cooper Lee Bombardier

  Side Affects is an incredible addition to trans scholarship. Malatino's writing is sharp and absolutely gorgeous. This book offers supple reframings of our bad trans feelings not only as a brilliant critique of the racial and hegemonic underpinnings of "successful" transness, but also as an invigorating basis for trans activism and social change, moving readers to agitate for trans well-being interdependently rather than on appropriative modes of individual happiness and the low-hanging fruit of individual thriving. I dog-earred so many pages of this book to come back to and reflect upon again that my copy's spine is aching.
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  Jess

  It almost physically pains me to admit that I DNF’d this book—allow me to explain.
  
  I’m no stranger to ten dollar words—I’ve been (good-naturedly) teased for being needlessly verbose both at work and in my personal life. Probably not a unique experience from someone who’s always been an avid reader!
  
  However, ‘Side Affects’ by Hil Malatino had me regularly searching Google for phrases used in the introduction alone. It was a slog to even get through the intro and first chapter before I reminded myself that I don’t have to finish anything that I’m not actively enjoying.
  
  While I did find some insightful sentiments on trans theory, I felt this work to be too academic for me to really retain any of the information. It’s what turns me off to so much theory in the first place and gives me a new appreciation for authors who can break down big concepts into easily digestible writing.
  
  All this to say that if you have a solid foundation for reading academic theory and want to learn more about the trans experience, you’ll likely get much more out of this book than I did.
  
  Thank you to NetGalley and University of Minnesota Press for providing me with a digital ARC in exchange for an honest review.
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  Lily Rooke

  In 'Side Affects', Hil Malatino opens up a space for a nuanced exploration of the 'bad' feelings specific to the trans experience. I think this book is vitally important, because, as Malatino argues, there can be great reluctance in expressing anything other than dysphoric or euphoric feelings in relation to being trans, for fear of coming across as 'inauthentic or threatening' to others, especially those who act in bad faith. The text is relatively short, and despite being highly academic, I still found it accessible as a reader. It's definitely a book I would want to read if I were learning about these topics in a formal setting. Reading it made me want to be taught by Malatino!
  
  Chapter by chapter, Malatino explores emotions such as rage, envy, fatigue, and numbness, making use of examples in media and contemporary world events in smooth, digestible transitions. I found the chapters on numbness and envy particularly interesting, and definitely felt understood by the author. It's exceptionally rare to read a book that explores topics such as these, and some parts of the book really felt like a lifeline.
  
  Ultimately, Malatino is writing about ways in which we must confront difficult emotions, work through them rather than avoiding them or fearing them, so as to reconcile with the past and heal. Being stuck very much in the 'flat affect', it feels like an enormous mountain to climb, and too much water under the bridge. That's why I hope younger readers, perhaps those at university, might read this book and begin considering its lessons early enough in life not to fall so deep into the spiral.
  
  I am very grateful to the publisher and NetGalley for providing an ARC of 'Side Affects'. These opinions are my own. (Surname corrected 3.8.22 with apologies to the author, I struggle with this a lot.)
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  K

  There's a very good reason why this book took me over half a year to finish. It's on a difficult topic that is both incredibly validating to encounter as a trans person, but it also has the potential (and result, in my case) of deepening those bad feelings. This isn't to say that trans folks shouldn't read this book if they are feeling bad, but rather that I recommend taking your time with it. I certainly did. I picked up this book when I was feeling bad on a number of fronts well after I had gotten nearly all of what I wanted from transition. It was incredibly upsetting to realize that I had done everything I could to align my inner world and my social presentation and still be mis-recognized and regularly refused to be taken seriously. Malatino theorizes this as an "interregnum," which I think is a powerful framework for understanding just how awful that feeling of being stuck is. I picked up this book when I was at an academic conference – my first in-person conference since 2019. In the intervening period, I had taken advantage of numerous medical and social options to solidify my transness in the world. The result of having people not know me in my current form was incredibly jarring, and I found myself having all kinds of "bad feelings." Rage. Envy. Exhaustion and burnout. I had developed deeper relationships with trans people in my life, but I couldn't help but notice the intensity of the friction that often arose. So when I began reading this book, it was incredibly validating to have someone outline the widespread nature of these bad feelings, and to explore the structural reasons why they are so prevalent. The final chapter on care and "woo" read like icing on the cake.
  
  This book is unrepentantly written in a style most familiar to high critical theory and philosophy. Those of you looking for an accessible entry point into these ideas would probably do better to listen to Malatino's interview on the Gender Reveal podcast (
  season 6, episode 8). I personally think that when ideas are this complex, the prose style should force me to slow down. It is what I need, especially as I try to keep my own affect from dipping too low in the terrifying world 2023 is turning out to be for trans and queer people in the United States.
  
  This book is also generative. I can't wait to see what further research builds off of these ideas. Given that Malatino's research is mostly in texts (books, blogs, newletters, and archives), there are numerous opportunities here for those of us in the qualitative social sciences to extend these ideas in other arenas. And that, I believe, is the hallmark of a good book.
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  Elizabeth

  “Moving bad feelings to the center of a discussion of what, if anything, might link or be shared by disparate trans subjects is a way of reorienting the way trans experience is thought; it becomes less about a diagnosis, less about dysphoria, less about our personal relation to embodiment and transition, and instead about more or less shared affective orientations to relentlessly quotidian, hydra-headed forms of transantagonism.” (11)
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  Aleks

  dnf as it was not accessible to be when it comes to language
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  Trans-cending-literature

  sad i had to dnf. Of what I could understand of this book it was insightful and got me thinking about my own transition and experiences as a trans person. and I really wanted to be able to read more of this as it pertains to my senior thesis I’m currently working on. But the writing in this is inaccessible, which is one of my least favorite thinks about academia. I wish academia would stop using writing that is gibberish to the average person, and even worse for people like me with learning disabilities.
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  Nico Ferrall

  It is true that the affective experience of reading Side Affects was “bad,” for me. I had gone into it expecting relatability, and a reprieve from poptimist, samey media accounts of transness. Instead, it was a highly researched academic book, citing over a hundred activists, experts, artists, quarterlies, reports, emails, show notes, and ephemera. The casual title had lulled me into thinking I would be reading something colloquial, dumbed down. I “felt bad” reading it in the library, in
  my apartment, in the urban indoor market, as music revolved beneath a vaulted, industrial
  ceiling. Transition, Malatino refrains, leads to a sense of being placeless, surrounded by a great
  deal of indifferent, hostile humanity, for which there is no restitutio ad integrum. Moments of
  gender euphoria are fugitive, the exception that proves the rule. We have the technology to treat
  dysphoria, but there are no palliatives for the side effects listed here. A dangerous thought
  started recurring, as I read on. “I could be doing something else,” I kept thinking, “I could be
  reading anything else.”
  
  Beyond gender euphoria and dysphoria, Side Affects explores a set of more ambient emotions that
  suffuse the trans daily: anxiety, envy, numbness, rage, and burnout. The book explores the phenomenon of stasis, centering on the plodding slowness of building a future within the grinding repetitions of the transphobic daily. There are five chapters elaborating the five affects, and a sixth “where do we go from here?” chapter. In each chapter Malatino surveys the uniquely trans manifestations of each negative affect, providing both surveys of and working definitions for the terms, drawing on a variety of sources, both cis and trans, fictional and real.
  
  Most interesting to me was the chapter on Numbness, in which Malatino discusses the role of flat affect in providing an insulating distance between trans subjects and their surrounds. “Flat affect” in the psych literature manifests “as verbal monotony, facial inexpressiveness, and generalized apathetic response.” Lauren Berlant describes this as a covert strategy of “sneaking around the codes of sincerity and legibility that make social life possible.” Trans people grow skeptical of routine encounter because it is based on cisnormative presumptions, and the result of this skepticism is withdrawal from public life. Some might brand such a strategy as a “coping mechanism” or even
  a type of humorous self-positioning, but the author identifies flat affect as definitively negative, a
  “stammering,” a mask which never fits quite right, but can never be taken off.
  
  There are three dreams when it comes to transition: the desire to be recognized as the other
  gender (usually), the desire to look good, and the desire to feel, if not happy, better. This is
  usually ‘felt’ as one single dream of self-transcendence. What happens when transition results
  in a decrease in perceived attractiveness? When constant awkward scenarios undermine one’s
  libido for living? When the desire to pass becomes an obstacle to sincerity? Malatino refuses to
  reconcile these competing dreams and recuperate the byproducts as “part of the process.”
  
  In this morally detached account, Malatino fails to tell us how to feel about the feelings, and
  doesn’t even try to reinforce a right to transition. In doing so he is writing against the grain of
  other trans writers and LGBT helping professionals, with their constant reversion to compassion,
  blow-softening, bodily autonomy, and “don’t kill yourself” codas. Looking back, Side Affects is
  not a book for sitting down and reading cover to cover, but that was on me. I would recommend
  thumbing through it, seeing what resonates, and stopping before you start... feeling bad.
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  Roz

  Side Affects explores the ways that negative feelings affect trans lives and ways of interacting in the world, specifically focusing on the feelings of fatigue, numbness, envy, rage, and burnout. Malatino traces the ways these feelings manifest in trans lives in the hopes that discussion and sharing of negative affects will help trans people alleviate these feelings. He makes clear in the introduction that a motivating factor to his work is to show other trans people that the negative affects he's exploring are common throughout the trans community and that by talking about them openly, discussing the effects of these negative emotions as well as what these emotions inspire in us, will make it easier for us to live with and transform these emotions. This is an incredibly important, thought-provoking book that reframes how we look at the negative aspects of being trans - what causes them, what it means when we feel them, what we can do to alleviate those feelings. I definitely came out of this book with a new appreciation for the ways that emotions like envy or rage can frame our understanding of ourselves and inspire both individual and collective action.
  
  Which makes it kind of disappointing how inaccessible this book feels. This is a deeply technical book that requires considerable familiarity with existing literature to be comprehensible. From the title and the way the summary was written, I was expecting something a lot more accessible to the average reader who wants a new way of thinking about the persistent negative feelings that a trans person may experience throughout their life. But the average reader is probably going to read two pages of this and nope out because everything Malatino is saying is going right over their head. Malatino is obviously very familiar with his subject and the highly specific language surrounding it, and is expecting the reader to be equally as familiar. Which is a shame, because everything Malatino is saying could help spark such amazing discussions that could ultimately benefit all trans people. But this feels like it's going to stay in academic circles rather than reach the public at large.
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  Lynn

  This book is meant for an academic audience and my academic days are far behind me yet I found it very compelling. I don't think it is meant for a wide ranging audience and the author is probably fine with that however if you choose to read it or even glean through it you won't be disappointed.
  
  Malatino has a profound voice and provides contemporary and past examples that allows the reader to truly understand the "Side Affects" they are referring to in the title. One would hope all readers have more compassion, empathy and understanding after reading Side Affects.
  
  Although I did have to refer to Google at times or re-read a few passages it didn't take away from my reading experience.
  
  I also spent the time reading some of the works and watching the documentaries referred to in the book. I think about Southern Comfort and Robert Eads often. I have encouraged my friends and family to watch it as well. I have a chronic illness and compare my health journey to his often in my mind. Although no one wants to be sick my journey has been privileged compared to his. It makes me weep, and I am not being melodramatic.
  
  I also read Little Fish by Casey Plett in the middle of reading Side Affects. Since this is a review for Side Affects I won't go into detail but it's definitely worth the read, more so if you are Canadian.
  
  I have been challenging myself to read different voices and different genres. Although I have always been an ally everything I thought I knew has been shifted due to reading this book. For the better.
  
  Thanks to Netgalley for the advanced copy of the book.
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  Anouk⭐

  *Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for a chance to read an ARC of this book for free, in exchange for an honest review.*
  
  Everything discussed in this book is compelling but also incredibly academic. If you’re not used to reading academic publications, then the language may keep you from understanding the text. However, if that isn’t the case, and you’re interested in gender theory, then I highly recommend reading this.
  
  As a cis person who is interested in gender studies but has no proper foreknowledge, Side Affects granted me incredibly important insights into the trans experience. Even though the language wasn’t very accessible, the ideas themselves were written very coherently and were not all that difficult to grasp. At times, the chapters felt long, especially when other texts were discussed in quite some detail, but this was never bothersome as it was always interesting enough. As someone who struggles with getting through most non-fiction books, this was a delight to read, though not always easy when it comes to the subject matter itself. I think that the author occasionally referring to his personal experiences helped with that, as it made me feel more connected to the book.
  
  Personally, I loved the books and articles that were referenced (and have checked many of them out already) so this is certainly a good book to start out with if this is something that interests you. I got introduced to many authors and new vocabulary and I’ll definitely keep everything I learned close at hand. Overall, it’s an amazingly informative publication that I’m certain will enlighten many people in academia, trans or otherwise.
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  Shaina Seideneck

  DNF (sadly)
  
  As an ally of the LGBT+ community I really wanted to utilize this read to help further my knowledge of the Trans experience. I simply feel as though I am not smart enough to understand this clearly, brilliant person's writing. What I did get through I only took away a few points from quite a few pages. I am very out of practice with academic writing and I feel that I just misinterpreted the synopsis and thought that this would be a more narrative style of story rather than a dissertation style which also affected my enjoyment of this book.
  
  I am hoping to find an audio copy of this title in the future as I am usually able to better understand this academic style through auditory means.
  
  *Thank you to NetGalley for the opportunity to read and review an ARC copy of this title.
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  Remy

  Wow, just wow.
  Hard to articulate my thoughts about this book right off the bat. It has to marinate in my head for a bit, I think. Especially the second chapter, which deals with feelings of numbness. I related so intensely and had never felt myself so seen in a book before.
  
  Malatino's vocabulary is a little academic, which may be a turn off for some people, but regardless I think every trans person should read this book.
  
  I really appreciate the idea of giving negative emotions their due. They are not things to be brushed off, cannot be magically or permanently solved, and can provide us with necessary tools and insights for growth and change. (personal and communal).
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  Latitude

  This book was uh. Very Scientific, and I was definitely expecting something more like a pop-psychology book? Very Academic, very Queer Theory. It’s a great book! But it wasn’t really my cup of tea, just because I already do SO MUCH academic reading for school. If you are a person who is not Actively In College, I recommend this book – if you like that kind of writing. Three and a half stars from me, rounded up for Goodreads.
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  Chidi

  About the effects of day-to-day transphobia focusing on fatigue, envy, numbness, rage and burnout. How these make us feel and how we find community through them with other trans folk, maybe allowing us to form a habitable world.
  
  This book is like a queer/trans theory response to the self-help book. I really enjoyed it and will continue to sit with some of Malatino’s reflexions on being trans and sometimes feeling bad.
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  Bastián Olea Herrera

  Una perspectiva profunda e informativa hacia las experiencias de vida trans, mediante un análisis de las emociones o afectos negativos que suelen ser comunes a las personas trans. Me llamó la atención esta idea de que la experiencia común de ciertos sufrimientos y dificultades sean un punto que genera comunidad, y el punto de vista de las emociones negativas como estrategias de cambio y resistencia, no sólo como malestares temporales que deben ser aliviados. 16 páginas dobladas.
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  Jasper

  this didn’t hit quite as much as Trans Care did but it’s still a really poignant, thought-provoking book. i was particularly struck by the sections on trans rage and trans envy, as well as malatino’s conclusion that, while writing about gender euphoria is undoubtedly powerful, “happiness is not contagious,” and therefore does nothing to dismantle the oppressive systems creating these debilitating “side affects.”
  
  4.5 stars 🖤
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  Eve Werger

  Mixed feelings about this—it reads to me a bit more like a research paper than a book for trans people by a trans person, but I did learn from it and it gave me a lot to think about, namely, do we as trans people need to be so goal oriented on our “finished” selves or is there more that we can learn about and give to ourselves if we can sit in our current bodies with more grace. Not sure it changed anything big for me but lots of food for thought.
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  Charlie

  A lot of jargon and definitely beneficial (necessary?) to go in with an understanding of 101 and 201-level trans discourses for this text to be fully graspable. I found the chapters that draw on historical and biographical examples of community and discourse stronger than the ones that used contemporary novels as affect case studies. Did not agree with everything but it gave me a lot to think about, definitely worth the read.
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  K. Goldschmitt

  This book is bound to be a classic in trans studies. The concepts around "interregnum" and envy (affective response to perceived inequality), especially, are bound to influence other academic work. Trans readers be warned: it may deepen bad feelings just as easily as it will make you feel validated. Amazing work. Thank you, Hil Malatino.
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  Jenn Reviews

  An incredibly powerful, insightful, important book. This book should be required reading for all humans as a means to try to understand. I will carry this wisdom with me personally and professionally.
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  Ren B

  This was SO GOOD. I cannot begin to say how helpful this was to me in my early transition. It felt so good to read this and hear that it is okay that everything doesn't feel great. That these negative experiences have collective power.
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  JP

  "Trans intercorporeality... is a term for thinking what happens when trans bodies meet and intermingle. It has the power to make you real, to call you forth, to literally transition you."
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  Daphne Jansen

  What an incredible read. I've never felt so and connected with descriptions of trans experience as what was described here.