| Title | : | Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience |
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| ISBN | : | 0399592555 |
| ISBN-10 | : | 9780399592553 |
| Language | : | English |
| Format Type | : | Hardcover |
| Number of Pages | : | 301 |
| Publication | : | First published November 30, 2021 |
| Awards | : | Goodreads Choice Award Nonfiction (2022) |
Over the past two decades, Brown's extensive research into the experiences that make us who we are has shaped the cultural conversation and helped define what it means to be courageous with our lives. Atlas of the Heart draws on this research, as well as on Brown's singular skills as a storyteller, to show us how accurately naming an experience doesn't give the experience more power, it gives us the power of understanding, meaning, and choice.
Brown shares, "I want this book to be an atlas for all of us, because I believe that, with an adventurous heart and the right maps, we can travel anywhere and never fear losing ourselves."
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience Reviews
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Atlas of the Heart is a beautiful reference book that would look lovely on a coffee table or guestroom night stand. It’s full of images and diagrams and the like, which make it quite different from Brené Brown’s previous publications. When I first saw it in stores I was a little bummed, because I always listen to her read her own audiobooks and thought there’s no way Atlas could be translated to that format.
But she did it! In the audiobook, she re-reads passages that were written in bold in the book to really emphasize them, describes illustrations so listeners can easily picture them, and also includes a PDF for reference. Her narration style is casual and conversational. She’s a pro at engaging listeners.
If you’re still with me but are like, cool, who the heck is Brené Brown, I got you. Dr. Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she studies courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, and is the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers. Her TED talk – The Power of Vulnerability – is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world.
Her books are often shelved as “self help,” but that never feels right to me. Now self AWARENESS on the other hand is perfectly apt. Her research illuminates the commonality of the human existence, especially the parts people don’t really want to talk about.
Atlas of the Heart can be best described as a dictionary of emotional terms, such as illuminating the differences between envy and jealousy. If etymology and semantics don’t interest you, boredom will likely set in. I will always read (listen to) every book Dr. Brown writes, but her latest is possibly too advanced for those new to her and her work. It’s a great road map for emotional nuances, but not the best on-ramp to the Brené Brown journey of self awareness.
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I regret the money spent on this book. I bought into the hype and pre-ordered it. I'm disappointed in the book and I agree with the critical reviews here on GoodReads and on Amazon.
Until now, I bought into Brene Brown's self-improvement formula. I believed that I could read her books, understand my experience better, and shake off some of the traits she identified as the ones getting in the way of living a "whole-hearted" life. So, I purchased and read all of her previous best sellers.
With this book, the falacy of self-improvement-by-reading is exposed for what it is: a complete dead-end. On the CBS Evening News, Brene Brown claimed that we need her new book because without her instuction about the correct meaning of terms like "grief" or "contempt" or "curiosity," we can't connect meaningfully with others.
That claim is bullshit.
The title of this book should have been called "Brene Brown's Dictionary of Emotions and Experiences." As a resource for elementary school teachers looking for a way to teach students how to discern one emotion from another, it might be helpful. But for grown adults, the money spent on this book would be money better spent elsewhere. -
This is a lovely collection of approachable descriptions of human emotions and experiences, a must for emotional literacy work related to leadership.
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Haven't I already read this? Why does it show as unread? Ah, the mysteries of Goodreads.
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I would consider myself top 1% of Brown's devotees. I teach several of her works in my classroom and have followed her since the initial TED talk. This was a huge disappointment and made me sad to think that it felt like a money grab. Sure it's gorgeous and well done, as expected, but it feels recycled, which is so disappointing after anticipating this book since its announcement. It could be because I'm so deep into her work, but this didn't feel like anything new or actionable, which is what I'm looking for in these times, which are ripe for Brown's lens.
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EXCELLENT.... a dose of support examining the study of emotional psychology.
Audiobook, 8 hours and 29 minutes -- read by Brene Brown -- [a PDF is included]
........Brene Brown continues to teach, explore, and inspire......
......about what makes us human.... and ways we react to certain stimuli. She supports building healthy relationships....[with self and others]
She teaches emotional awareness [presents research]...
Brene offers language tools for talking about feelings more clearly -- ways to avoid or resolve conflicts better --
She teachers how emotions play an important role and how we think and behave.
For me, Brene Brown is a wonderful walking companion.... the 'real deal' when it comes to exploring our humanity authentically - open discussion style .... Plus, she is fun to hang out with!
The study of social science, emotional learning, well being, is a lifetime journey.
A wide range of topics and themes are explored --
.....connections, shame, vulnerability, boundaries, guilt, humiliation, embarrassment, judgment, violence, social pain, self awareness, love, loneliness, depression, blame, safety, stress, happiness, overwhelmed, anxiety, fear, the difference between fitting in and belonging, worry, dread, diversity, exclusion, jealousy, envy, feeling invisible, sacrificing, pain, perfection, addictions, insecurity, resentment, disappointment, regret, boredom, the cost of comparison, compassion, relationships to our behavior, stereotyping, admiration, social isolation, things people will do to avoid pain, healing.....etc.
....In this packed-filled-book, Brene offers valuable support and understandings....
....She offers language tools for healthy behaviors and conversations.... by examining the roles emotions play in our lives....
......about the ways we behave in response to emotion.
"If we can't articulate our emotions, we feel hopeless. Language is our portal to meaningful connections".
Personally -- I don't think this is a book needing recommendations ....[its one of those self-select types]....
But I do recommend it. I like Brene Brown!
In the same way I value healthy physical care - diet, sleep, exercise, good hygiene, etc.
I value healthy emotional care, love, connections, community, .....
....and given that learning about ourselves and others never stops -- I'm willing to indulge in a little Brene Brown.
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I found this illuminating and thought-provoking in a way I wasn’t expecting. In this nonfiction book, Brown examines 87 emotions that define us as a human. For example, she has some interesting thoughts on perfectionism. “Perfectionism is not striving to be our best or working toward excellence. Healthy striving is internally driven. Perfectionism is externally driven by a simple but potentially all-consuming question: What will people think? . . . Perfectionism kills curiosity by telling us we have to know everything or we risk looking ‘less than.’”
I’ve spent my entire life thinking that empathy was doing my best to see things from another person’s perspective, the walk a mile in another person’s shoe definition. In Atlas, Brown says, “Rather than walking in your shoes, I need to learn how to listen to the story you tell about what it’s like in your shoes and believe you even when it doesn’t match my experiences.”
On loneliness: “When we feel isolated, disconnected, and lonely, we try to protect ourselves. In that mode, we want to connect, but our brain is attempting to override connection with self-protection. That mean less empathy, more defensiveness, more numbing, and less sleeping. Unchecked loneliness fuels continued loneliness by keeping us afraid to reach out.”
This has suggestions for ways to better communicate with others and be gentle toward ourselves. It helped me think of things I thought I knew in a new way. -
I typically don't write reviews unless the book is really great or it's just crap. I spent time reading people's reviews and I found many that went something like, " It's just a book with a list of emotions" or something to that effect. I want to encourage you (if you believe that to be true) to gather a few trusted, intelligent, brave friends and talk about this book. If you only have yourself as a guide then I think you're missing the point. The point of the book is how language creates meaningful connections. CONNECTIONS. In order to fully grasp the premise of this book it's critical to discuss the book. Happy reading.
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Brene Brown is an inspiration. Reading this book felt like a deep dive into a wide range of emotions and insights. For me, it prompted a lot of reflection and learning.
This book aims to be a guide to emotions, to help us expand our language and understanding of our emotional experience. This book was fantastic in clearly articulating and exploring our common human experience. Brene Brown’s wisdom and knowledge were felt on every page. She has such a special quality in her ability to validate our experiences and help remind us that we are not alone. She highlights that suffering is an essential component of growth and that healing is possible if we connect with our experience rather than fight it or avoid it. I highlighted and/or tabbed something on every page. I can’t wait to read more of her work.
Some favourite quotes:
“Language is our portal to meaning-making, connection, healing, learning, and self-awareness. Having access to the right words can open up entire universes … Language shows us that naming an experience doesn’t give the experience more power, it gives us the power of understanding and meaning”.
“I want this book to be an atlas for all of us, because I believe that with an adventurous heart and the right maps, we can travel anywhere and never fear losing ourselves. Even when we don’t know where we are”. -
Wow. BB did it again, y’all.
I listened to this on audible, but my cousin gave me the physical copy for Christmas, and I’m so glad I had it as a reference point, so I could go back and dig in, look at the pieces of art and images that are in it, and just absorb it some more.
Goodness. It’s definitely an atlas in the sense that it orients us and helps us map out the various emotions we have experienced in our lives. It shows us when we have been using words incorrectly, and gives us a tool box for how to understand these emotions more.
A friend of mine said she felt like she was reading a textbook, and maybe it’s because I listened to the audio and Brené talked to me like we were having a conversation about her findings, I didn’t have the same experience. Because when I tell you I was weeping while driving my car, I am not exaggerating. She open my eyes to all these vast emotions we feel through story, comparison and research. It was an amazing journey and I will definitely be returning to this book again and again to keep exploring and learn about the complexities of the emotions we experience as humans. -
This is my first Brene' Brown read. It's nominated in Goodreads nonfiction. Unfortunately, Atlas of the Heart taught me nothing. As a person who's spent a good portion of their life studying psychology, I was looking for fresh ideas. This book read like a dictionary of emotions for people looking for concrete definitions of everyday words.
Brown defined words like empathy, grief, resentment, etc. but never shared how they connected to the human experience. I didn't walk away from this book more informed. Perhaps, I learned to use a different word instead of angry, because angry isn't an emotion.
If someone asked me what this book was about, I would say, it's about human emotion defined through the finite lens of Brown's own life. She uses acolytes of movies and experiences to define 80 some emotions.
While the emotions are relevant and important, isn't the most imperative element to surround yourself with people that help build these emotions, help connect to your heart? Humans are well aware of emotional variances, simplistic ones like surprise, disgust, and loneliness--but I wanted more. How do we work around these emotions, given the stresses of life?
It's not an on/off switch.
In my mind, the book reads like a scientific research assignment that I would be tested on. I imagined Brown and her colleagues in a lab dissecting emotions under a microscope, but emotions are expressions of each individuals' experiences, aren’t they? We can’t scientifically define emotions, wrap them in a box and say hey, use this not that. It’s not always that easy. Humans, generally, need time to manage and define their emotions. Sometimes, it doesn’t come easily.
Maybe I'm not the right audience for this book, many seemed to like it (update: won best nonfiction Goodreads award) It was too preachy and loaded for me.
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I cannot wait to read it! I have read all of Brene Brown’s books and use it as guide for my life, especially when things get challenging & tough. Her books have given me hope, inspiration, and strength. And look at that cover! ❤️ — mo✌️
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Brené Brown is certainly well known as a cultural voice, having gained repute in 2010 when her TED talk on vulnerability went viral. In this book, she seeks to give people the language needed for expressing emotion. According to her research, most people have only enough emotional awareness to lump their feelings into three categories. To counter that severe over-simplification, she seeks in this book to define and catalog the wide range of emotions, along with their subcategories. The formula: define, share research, tell a story as an example. Because there were 87 emotions addressed, the book became a bit tedious. Ironically, the methodical treatment of each emotion in scientific manner felt cold and sterile to me.
I do concur with her premise that "language matters," and that it can be transformative to be able to communicate accurately our feelings. Doing so has the potential to bring us into a mutual understanding with others, to enhance and deepen our relationships. But there was an almost indefinable "something" that made me resistant, uncomfortable even. Was it the buzzwords she sprinkled liberally throughout? Was it the emphasis on excavating our "truest self"?
Here are a few snippets I can quote as examples:
"To form meaningful connections with others, we must first connect with ourselves. "
"that solid ground is within us."
"owning our sadness is courageous, and is a necessary step in finding our way back to ourselves."
"We need to belong to ourselves as much as we need to belong to others."
SELF, SELF, SELF
I came of age in the era of hippies, when the term "naval gazing" became popular. This feels like naval gazing recycled.
Don't get me wrong; Brown's definitions of emotions are spot-on. Some of the illustrative stories were engaging and touching. But as a Christian, my source and resource lies outside of me. There's no good thing, no "solid ground within" ME, apart from Christ. Though we can agree on the definitions, though we may aspire to many of the same things (such as connection), I cannot embrace the doctrine of self. I know enough about myself to realize that I must do better than to analyze and discuss emotions. I must tap into the love of a Living God, to seek to grow in expressing that love, and to be perfected in it. That is emotional intelligence, that is emotional maturity: to be perfected in love. -
Honestly, kind of disappointed. Maybe I'm just not in the right mind set for it. But reading emotion after emotion was not doing it for me. DNF -23%
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I just don't understand why someone who has a lot of wisdom to share decides to go political thus turning off half of your readers. And honestly it's a miracle that I continued listening after in the beginning she admitted that she had such contempt for people who refuse to get vaccinated that she wish them to get covid. She said she fought against those feelings but was so wrapped up in herself that all she could see is how they might hurt her. Honestly at this point I hope she's embarrassed by having ever had those feelings because that is literally sickening to assume that you know why any individual might make that choice. It goes against everything that she sat there and talked about for 9 hours.
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AMAZING. Required reading for good human-ing. As a therapist, I live and navigate in the emotions world constantly and yet I learned SO SO much from this book. I will reference it often, and it’s going on my “keep forever” shelf. Can’t recommend highly enough.
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4/5 stars
*Spoilers warning!*
“Choosing to be curious is choosing to be vulnerable because it requires us to surrender to uncertainty. We have to ask questions, admit to not knowing, risk being told that we shouldn't be asking, and, sometimes, make discoveries that lead to discomfort.”
Atlas of the Heart is a 2022 Goodreads Choice Awards winner in the category of nonfiction. Upon it winning the category, I was curious as to why it had received the most votes, and now I know why!
In a time of climate crisis, ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, and economic woes, society has made talking about mental health somewhat mainstream. Although much stigma remains for those who suffer mental health conditions, I think perhaps that we might be in a time where we want to explore the domains of emotional and mental health. As in, I think we all want to rediscover how to connect with people, after a few years of being physically isolated from one another.
"I want this book to be an atlas for all of us, because I believe that, with an adventurous heart and the right maps, we can travel anywhere and never fear losing ourselves."
After all, no matter if you're extroverted or introverted (raises hand) or somewhere in between, humanity is a social species. Personally, I find myself re-evaluating the relationships in my own life, and I think that was part of what I really liked about Atlas of the Heart. I could use some more emotional intelligence, and I genuinely learned a great deal from the book.
I listened to the audiobook version of the book, and the author I think did a great job, making sure to repeat passages that she thought were key. As I was listening, I was often doing chores and sometimes my mind can wonder during that process (because I often find chores just so boring and mind-numbing), so that repeating and emphasis was very helpful and much appreciated.
She did her best to bring psychological terminology down to earth, but I admit I really needed the repeats and the asides, so that I really understood what she was saying before moving on to the next chapter, because they definitely built on each other.
So, there are 87 emotions that humans experience. . However, the 87 emotions are grouped together into categories by how similar they are, with unexpected nuances in related emotions, such as envy and jealousy, or empathy and compassion.
Brown puts names to experiences I have had that mix a variety of emotions. Names and language in general provide useful anchors, and I think Brown recognizes this and puts it to great use. I also think that language intercedes to make the mysterious less scary, and there's nothing more scary for me than peering at the dark side of my emotional life. Emotions like anger, contempt, and disgust that I tend to shove down. But bringing them to the table and examining them makes them less scary and alien, and they are good indicators of when you need to make some sort of change.
This whole discussion was made more relevant and relatable by talking about her own process of learning as she conducted research over the years in topics such as empathy and connection. It made me feel less alone in my learning journey, as there were places where I got overwhelmed by the scope of emotional experiences covered here. Brown is a gentle, patient, and understanding guide as we navigate uncharted waters.
I think this may be a book that I will end up buying in its print edition, because of how good a reference this is. I also have heard how good the illustrations are in the regular book, and I wish to experience those as well.
Happy reading!
-Cora
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I've loved everything I've ever read by Brené Brown, and this was no exception! The concept of learning the nuance behind emotions to be able to accurate name them was super interesting, and there were a lot of things I learned. Because of the way it's structured, it's easy to read this in small chunks, and the writing is very clear and easy to understand. Highly recommend!
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My favourite of all of Brene’s books
I have been a huge fan of Brené Brown since her first best-selling book - "The Gifts of Imperfection", published 10 years ago. I've read every single book she's written since and each left me transformed in a different way. She's been one of the guiding lights on both my personal and professional journeys over the past decade. It was hard for me to believe she'd ever write something else that would turn my world completely upside down, yet I have to say that "Atlas of the Heart" might just be that book.
Of all of Brene's books, this has to be my favourite! It is truly a map for voicing feelings we often don't have the right words for. A map for understanding our feelings and making friends with them - even the painful ones that we usually would do anything to avoid. It's a treasure-trove of language to map out the most important inner landscape of our humanity. I think it should be a must-read for parents, teachers and any human who's ever asked themselves - "What's gotten into me? Why am I reacting this way? How can I understand myself better?"
If you're not sure whether you need this book, listen to the three "Unlocking Us" podcast episodes (on Spotify) where Brene discusses the book with her sisters, Ashley and Barrett. Such a treat!
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4 1/2 to 5 stars
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Friends, I don't have the energy to write a real review so here is a cut-n-paste of my thoughts that I put in a note on my phone as I was listening.
I DO NOT RECOMMEND THIS AS AN AUDIO BOOK.
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Affected speaking style, rereading points TOO FREQUENTLY (that is what the rewind 15 sec button is for); reminds me of someone like Paltrow and Goop and is probably a monster to work for; went in with an open mind but really it’s for wine o’clock mommies who haven’t had therapy. Really would like to dig into each of the feelings separately (Anger Becomes Her did this; it’s not sufficient to have 87 feelings esp if say you’re going to take about disappointment and regret and then just glide through others you say you’re going to cover). Glib, disingenuous, she’s totally enamored with herself/thinks she’s really clever.
There are things I liked- the difference between jealousy and envy was useful but then the conversation about Schadenfreude was not- it’s not something that has a 1:1 translation into English and her Pollyanna attitude about it did it a disservice. Same re: citing studies on jealousy and it’s relationship to violence- I would bet my last dollar that those studies are mostly about men and intimate partner violence and to somehow suggest to a largely female readership that it might be otherwise seems fucked up. “Oh I let my kids be bored bc then they would do things like write and illustrate an entire book about rocks” and “Steve needs two hours of waterpolo on Sundays and communicates those expectations to me” just… humblebragging class weirdness. I also wish she’d acknowledge how much of the guidance is a repackaging of AA- staying in your own (swim) lane, the problems with resentments and how they come from expectations of people/places/institutions; etc.
My wife is begging me to stop doing this to myself with this particular brand of pop mom psychology.
Pretends to trust her readers “there is xyz thread in this chapter and I think you’ll get that” but then overemphasizes and repeats things like we didn’t or couldn’t understand them the first time.
Her examples aren’t good. For example: her example of paradox: we are drawn to vulnerability in others first (authenticity) but will protect our own vulnerability at all costs. She wonders how both of these things can be true; if is a paradox because one cannot exist without the other. But that’s not a paradox when it comes to vulnerability. It's a condition of its existence. There is a difference between something being a paradox and two things not being mutually exclusive; the ability to have two truths coexist side by side is not necessarily analogous to two things that seem opposite actually proving one another (I can see why this would be confusing for something like vulnerability, which would seem to seek out another’s perceived weakness in other to shore up my own position as superior or less weak, but this is maybe only true for animals living in a prey situation and not for human beings in a complex social ecology). The example of vulnerability that Brown uses here isn’t contradictory at all.
Leadership blah blah makes me skeptical. Where is the emotion “skepticism?”
Needed to not listen to this book. She raises her pitch at the ends of sentences so everything sounds like a question. She also pauses in the middle of sentences like she's thinking, which is fine if you're on a podcast talking offhand and actually thinking but not when you're reading something. just read the fucking book you wrote it for god's sake.
She’s a liar. I don’t believe her claims about memories and things she laughed at. Also I don’t believe she’s an introvert.
The chapters just end abruptly
“Grounded theory research” isn’t earth shattering. It’s all research in dissertation programs. Mega eyeroll.
This book is a Tumblr account
Not as funny as she thinks —> cringe
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Personally and professionally, I truly appreciate Brené Brown. Collectively and historically, Dr. Brown’s work has been transformative in the ways in which we connect to ourselves and one another. Her career work has been pivotal in helping us to find the language for overcoming shame and vulnerability through connection and courage. ‘Atlas of the Heart’ is a bit of different work than we are accustomed to from Dr. Brown, although it is right in alignment with her previous books. ‘Atlas of the Heart’ is intended to serve as an encyclopedia reference of the 87 primary emotions humans experience. The essence of the book is to provide a resource for folx to more appropriately name the emotions they are authentically experiencing to then provide an opportunity to cultivate meaningful connection with one another as a result. To me, this book is a good jumping off point. I feel Dr. Brown is able to successfully begin working toward the intention she has through the book; however, I do feel like there are parts missing where, at times, the book felt rushed to production. I definitely think more could have been explained regarding the various groupings of emotions and why they are categorized in the way they are. Also, I would have liked to see more of Brené’s thoughts on each emotion; in most of the emotional descriptions, Dr. Brown uses other people’s research instead of her own. While this is helpful, it would have been helpful for me to hear more of her personal and professional understanding of what differs one emotion from the next, especially emotions that are similar in nature. All in all, it’s a good start. I’d love to see a re-release of this book in the future with additional research that helps to achieve her intention even further. I have hopes that this book can be a helpful tool for people to find appropriate language for describing emotion.
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Atlas of the Heart is a 4 star read. I gave the 5th star in anticipation of having and needing the book for the rest of my life. The book gives us language to understand and name our emotions to help process them and give us power to use them to connect with ourselves and others. One of Dr. Brown’s amazing talents is the ability to take hyper-academic themes and research and make them readable, accessible, and digestible. I enjoyed reading the book. But, I will come back to it when I have those rushes of emotions, like the ones that present as anger or sadness, to better understand what is going on inside my body and mind. This is a powerful tool for introspection and to connect with myself. But, the more important layer is being able to connect with others. Understanding “the Language of Human Experience,” will, I hope, help me to show up for the people I care about, those who need support, and help me do it in a way that serves their needs and not my own. It’s a beautiful book that I expect to destroy as I use it time and again.
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This is a really useful book that I need some time to ruminate in. While some felt annoyed by the number of definitions in it—the whole first part are basically a glossary of emotions—I found them helpful in how they helped clarify things. And I appreciate that it did not shy away from political implications and applications of its points.
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The power of naming emotions.
This is my first read of Brene Brown and all I have to say it WOW! What a beautiful human. Her heart and mind have incredible emotional intelligence and I highly recommend picking up this inviting journey into discovering what emotions actually are. I listened to the audiobook, which Brene narrated, and she did such an amazing job.
The crux of the book is simply understanding emotions better. Brene goes over something like 80+ emotions, defines them and then compares them. Just by going through this exercise, you will understand yourself better, the significance of your emotional state and how to harness the power of that understanding into changing your behavior for the better.
Here's just some quick and non-exhaustive notes about what you'll learn here. Anxiety can be both a trait and state and a response to anxiety comes out as either worry or avoidance or both. Dread consumes all of your energy even if you're dreading something that lasts only 2 seconds, you're exhausted because of the dread. The experience of fear is actually very short lived. Comparison to others is pervasive in society and demands that you conform at the same time as standing out (which is not possible). Comparing yourself to others is totally toxic to creativity. We should connect with others, not compare ourselves. Jealousy involves three people, envy involves two. Envy often has hostility attached to it as well as resentment. Schadenfreude, taking joy in another's misfortune actually has an opposite: freudenfeude.
We should have shared expectation of reality with our partners and often communicate what our expectations are. Boredom can actually be a productive state that sparks new avenues of interest. Curiosity is closing a knowledge gap while engaging a passion. Surprise is a short jump from cognition to emotion. There is a double edged sword of nostalgia which can be a tool used for preserving bad traditions and fetishizing a past that didn't exist. Rumination is very different from reflection.
Hope is a cognitive function. Hopelessness is about a situation where despair is having hopelessness about every aspect of your life mixed with depression. Compassion is recognizing our shared humanity. Compassion includes action that isn't trying to solve. Pity is the near enemy of compassion and immediately sets up divisions. Shame focuses on the self and not the behavior. Guilt focuses on behavior and not on the self. Shame and empathy cannot exist together. Shame and humiliations are never effective social justice tool.
Contempt is anger but with utter dismissal of another person. Contempt, criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling are really, really bad signs that a marriage is not going to make it. Hate offers a counterfeit bond and moves like a current, stoked by cynical leaders. The goal of hate is to eliminate. Pride is actually a healthy emotion but is often confused with hubris which always involves dominance.
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تقول الكاتبة: "أريد أن يكون هذا الكتاب أطلسًا لنا جميعًا، لأنني أعتقد أنه بقلب مغامر وخرائط صحيحة، يمكننا السفر إلى أيّ مكان ودونَ خوفٍ من أن نفقدَ أنفسنا قطْ."
ت��حدث الكاتبة عن عشرات المشاعر والتجارب التي يمر بها الإنسان يوميَا وتوفر لها تعريفات وخرائط لغوية من أجل تواصل أفضل وأكثر فعالية مع أنفسنا أولًا ومع الآخرين تانيًا.
