Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: A Complete Guide to Your Childs Stressed, Depressed, Expanded, Amazing Adolescence by John Duffy

Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: A Complete Guide to Your Childs Stressed, Depressed, Expanded, Amazing Adolescence Reviews

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  Patty (IheartYA311)

  Not sure if this book actually contains "everything you need to know to raise happy, healthy, stress-free teens" but it is a helpful little manual. It touches on a variety of topics without much filler and does have many useful tips.
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  Kierra

  I really can’t recommend this book highly enough to parents of teens and tweens. It’s full of understanding, practical advice, and insight into this new and strange landscape we find ourselves in raising teens in the digital era. Unlike many parenting books that seem aimed at terrifying parents or can leave us with a sense of helplessness, I appreciated Duffy’s approach based around a love for this generation and their unique strengths, as well as positive encouragement and specific advice to parents without underplaying the seriousness of the challenges our children face in the new age of anxiety.
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  Kathleen Garber

  I saw this book recommended on many parenting groups and decided I needed to read it. So I contacted the publisher for a review copy. I was not disappointed. I have three teens and this is definitely the age of anxiety. This book was published just before the pandemic which is surprising. It’s like the author knew more anxiety was coming. It’s perfect timing.
  
  The book starts with painting the picture. Items discussed are the parent’s experience as a teenager is nothing like the experience of a current teenager. So many things have changed that it’s a different experience. So we don’t really know what it’s like. The New Teen and New Early Teen is discussed. Also covered is Self-Consciousness, Empathy, Social Media, Antidotes to Social Media, Emotional Bank Account and more.
  
  Part Two is about addressing the issues. Anxiety, Mental Illness, Crisis, Alcohol, Drugs, Video Games, Relationships and Sex, Sexual Identity, Sexual Assault and Suicide.
  
  Part Three is about filling your toolbox. What to do about all these issues. The Vibe in your home, Yeah it takes a village, music, sleep, when your kid seems awful and hope for the future.
  
  If you have a teen or almost teen you will want this book.
  
  I received a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
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  Cassandra

  I received a complimentary physical copy.
  
  I like how it is organized into manageable learning sections. I like the added exercises to help you really understand the topics. Very well presented.
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  Susan Bazzett-Griffith

  Informative, if dull, parenting book about how to remember to be patient and loving with our teen kids, and why that's particularly important in today's overconnected, online world. I finished this awhile ago and never reviewed it, and the fact that I don't remember much more that I took from it other than to compliment my kid more, makes me only want to give it 2 stats, but I think I may return to the book again some day, so 3.
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  Leah Markham

  Fantastic. As a parent of a teen I really loved this book and what it talked about.
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  Dan Meier

  As a mental health counselor who works with teens and their families, I found this book to be insightful and clarifying. I've seen first hand the challenges John describes in this book and I think parents and therapists alike could benefit from the information found within.
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  Zeynep Gunduz Seyhan

  Ergenlik çağında çocuğu/ çocukları olan her ebeveyn okumalı. Sanırım benim çocuklar büyüyene kadar işler değişir o zamana da yeni kitap yazar umarım.
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  Tonya

  This book really resonated with me. It was published in 2019 and felt very up to date about issues facing teenagers today. I have a 16 year old and felt this was very helpful in thinking about how I should respond to moods, decisions she makes, etc. (which I second guess all the time.) At times, it was scary to see issues facing teens so well described in print, but also hopeful and helpful.
  
  One of my favorite quotes from the book and a summary of the main theme:
  "With so many elements of her life drawing down her sense of self-worth, your Unconditional Positive Regard will prove to be the godsend that will provide a crucial layer of protection from the dangers you fear for her. So, it is urgent that you see past your fear in order to recognize where the value in your relationship lies.
  She does not need your lecture. She already knows how you feel. Just ask her. She does not need your judgment. She is highly self-aware, and likely over-judging herself. She does not need your ire or unkindness. Her world is harsh enough as it is. Rather, she needs your light. She needs to know that, despite anything she feels about herself, anything she may do incorrectly, and any poor choices she makes, you are there for her, 100 percent, unconditionally. Your relationship with her can be her port in the storm of adolescence. In my opinion, that's the best parenting story you can possibly write."
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  Wesley Satterwhite

  Dr. Duffy presents the issues around parenting teens today in a reasonable, sane way--without the sky-is-falling-our-kids-are-ruined-because-of-the-internet fear that I read/see in many parenting forums and conversations these days. The world our teens in habit is very very different than the one in which we came of age and we need to be able to look at that word objectively, with open minds, and without letting our fears dominate us.
  
  The main message of this book: open communication, non-judgmental listening, awareness, recognition of the good. It may be that I liked it because much of his advice is stuff I already do, but I appreciate the validation nonetheless.
  
  One thing of note: he speaks frequently throughout the book to addressing issues and setting the tone in the pre-teen and middles school years (and even gives data about what middle-school-age kids are doing), but I fear the title leads parents to picking up this book once their kids are already past this stage when, in some ways, parents might feel it's too late.
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  Solange Guillen

  Even though many of the topics have been addressed in other books, some references shared were quite useful.
  A must-read for parents of tweens, teens, and young adults.
  
  "And when our kids become stressors we effectively disconnect from them and, in a sense, dehumanize them."
  
  "If you can ease your parental anxiety, you hold that celebratory light together. It forms an indelible and lifelong bond that can not be broken by the most vicious storm of life experience. It's the secret essence of your connection and she can lean on that connection hard when that grade falls, or she does not make the cut or that bully post, or that date blows her off, or she just does not like the way she looks. She knows you see her. That perfect her. And just knowing that light glows, that deepen spiritual connection she can breathe. Together you create the light that provides the strength to go on. This connection is bigger than kindness, and the most important, critical part of being a parent."
  
  
  
  
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  Erin

  I highly recommend this book! It is practical, not preachy. The author has changed his thinking on a couple of current topics and I appreciate his candor and analysis. I read a few sections aloud to my kids - they were thrilled. But, honestly, it really is approachable and has a lot of information to think about as a parent or a teacher.
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  Raleigh

  Brilliantly relevant and practical guide to navigating parenting/working with adolescents in the new age of anxiety. As an adolescent mental health professional in the school setting, this book sheds light on what I see every day and has plenty of eye opening content/practical solutions for how to get closer to the world of the teenager, even for someone who works with children daily.
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  Dana Phillips

  I don't think there's any denying that for many reasons kids are growing up today in a completely different world than what their parents and grandparents experienced. This book does a good job of explaining what those differences are and how they are affecting our kids. I did disagree with author Dr. John Duffy on how to handle some of the issues that this new world presents, however. His philosophy is to jump into the chaos and deal with the inevitable issues as they come up - hoping everyone comes out a little more battered but okay in the end. I prefer opting out of the unnecessary and most detrimental things and avoiding some of the pain (for example, delaying access to smartphones and tablets until driving age). Overall, I thought it was a good read and something all parents can benefit from. This generation is the first to grow up in our much more connected, much faster world and I think as parents we have to be willing to seek out advice and guidance on how to help them navigate.
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  alicebme

  Highly recommend for anyone who interacts at all with teens to twenty somethings! Every word made me feel good and hopeful about parenting my teen. Especially appreciate the Emotional Bank Account, which echoes the Time In to prevent Time Outs I read about when my child was younger. I guess the biggest thing is that you can’t just take the best from how you were parented and add in new things you read about that reflect your values. You actually have to acknowledge that your teen’s childhood is completely different than your mostly analog one. Their minds are occupied on and built from different building materials, even if you think you raised them outside of the noise of the world. You’re the parent, but you’re most likely not the expert on the challenges they are facing. Anyway, read it!
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  Sandra Avelar

  Me pareció un buen libro, contiene temas muy amplios sobre lo que viven los adolescentes en estos tiempos, un libro actual y práctico. Buena lectura para padres.
  
  Desde que se lee el título es fácil imaginar que será un tanto pesimista o fatalista; con solo la mención de la Ansiedad como un sello característico a estos tiempos; sin afán de minimizar la realidad, me preció algo radical (si algo malo puede pasar, va a pasar)
  
  Da recomendaciones muy concretas, lo que me pareció curioso es que cada caso y recomendación concluía con la sugerencia de resolver mayores temas en terapia; no estoy en contra de la terapia especializada pero creo que abusó del recurso o al menos de la mención del mismo.
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  Angela

  If you were to make a survey about top 10 teenagers struggles, I think the answers will depend a lot of the responders. This book addresses teens problems from parents/adults point of view and puts a lot of emphasis that kids today do not play/read/dress the way you likely did it when you a kid. But, from my point of view, this is not necessary a bad thing. The book focuses more on the negative effects of today's world and society, but since we can not change it, there should have been advices on how to focus on the good parts.
  There a lot of topics addressed in this book, not that many solutions tough: "connect free of fear, free of judgment".
  
  
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  Ahdom

  Having teenagers and pre-teens now. Wow, I am an old dad already... This book really felt more relevant than that of the parenting books I have read in the past. Though I find them useful, I think this book hits on relevant topics. I can see this one really "pulling the wool" from the eyes of many parents. This book definitely gave me plenty to think about and to keep my eyes open for. Raising a teen can be challenging and feel out of your control. I think this book really helped me keep things in perspective and to not be naive about the world our kids inhabit today.
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  Elli Kataura

  Straight forward. Practical. Simple but so necessary. Even if you know these things, there is no way to do them all consistently and perfectly without the graceful and gentle reminders provided in this book. Every parent of a preteen or teen should read this. A few tips that are helpful for parents of kids as young as 6-8 year olds. Loved it and will reread it.
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  Rachel Meyers

  4.5 stars. It's like the author got in my head and saw my family and gave me advice just for me. Reading about all the terrible things teens do helped me to appreciate my own teens' problems. I didn't give it 5 stars because it felt a little dooms day and gloomy but overall a great reference I'll probably refer to again.
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  Bridie Westbrook

  Overall I liked this book. I will say, there’s a lot of talk about the generational divide between children and their parents, but for many of the generalizations about parents (and their own childhood) it felt like the author was addressing gen x parents, so if you’re younger, it may not resonate as much.
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  Wendy

  Not many handbooks around for raising teenagers, and this day and age is very very different from the last. This book offered some helpful insights and it was comforting to know that I'm not messing up this parenting thing completely. I read it with my teens so now we are having a fun time using the books recommendations 'against' each other lol
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  Abi

  Este o carte buna, cu informatii utile pentru parintii care au copii cu varsta peste 8 ani. Ne prezinta informatii despre etapele prin care trece un copil, cu ce anume se confrunta, ce simt si moduri in care le putem fi alaturi. Simt nevoia sa caut mai multa informatie si sa aprofundez cunostintele despre aceasta etapa a vietii.
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  Cassandra

  I received a complimentary copy.
  
  The topics are strong and very to the point. get ready for a real hard truths kind of book. It will help to give you a few really eye opening outlooks that you may never really think about.
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  Jason Provonsha

  An important read for anyone with teens or pre-teens in their lives, whether parents, extended family, or mentors. Good, practical resources for helping kids navigate the complexities of the lives they lead. Strikes a great balance between alarm and optimism. Highly recommend.