Unfuck Your Anger: Using Science to Understand Frustration, Rage, and Forgiveness by Faith G. Harper

Unfuck Your Anger: Using Science to Understand Frustration, Rage, and Forgiveness Reviews

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  Elizabeth

  It was just okay. I was hoping for more science in this book but was disappointed. As the title would suggest, the tone of the book is a down-to-earth edginess that by the end felt banal and overbearing.
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  Andy

  Culture tells us anger is bad, and only bad people get angry. Therefore, if we want to be a good person, we should never be angry.
  
  Before reading Unfuck Your Anger, I intellectually understood that anger was a natural and healthy human emotion. But it was hard to know how to react to my own anger when culture was just telling me I was a bad person for feeling it.
  
  If you want a clear, concise, entertaining summary of the science of human anger, this books is for you. If you want to learn healthy, science based ways to understand and let go of your anger, this book is for you.
  
  Particularly enlightening were the revelations that emotions only last for 90 seconds, as long as you feel and let go of them; and that boundaries, letting go, and forgiveness are key ways to ensure anger doesn't dominate your life.
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  Kate

  Clear and straightforward examination of anger and all its elements, as well as useful strategies for recognising and managing anger.
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  Beau

  I loved it until the inevitable forgiveness chapter which was like you have to or else you can never heal which was really icky to me .
  Even when mentioning her husbands family who was killed in the holocaust as an example , like how he can forgive his grandmother for how her trauma affected him
  ??
  Like number nine forgive the deed remember the lesson ok Faith not if you’ve been sexually assaulted or been through a fraction of what your husbands family has .
  
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  Emily Rose Collini

  What is with the trend of “self-help” books putting curse words in the title. After finishing this book I wasn’t think about anger but thinking is this author trying to reach the “everyday” person by cursing… because something about that feels condescending. I will say… I do love a cuss word. Just thoughts. This book is brief but still good. Nothing so deeply profound and I was kinda zoned out reading it. My main takeaway is to sing about your anger so that I will do.
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  Heather

  This is a good series of books. They are short, to the point and highly informative without being too clinical. I would definitely recommend it to anyone trying to get in touch with their feelings, good and bad.
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  Alex

  Anger is an emotion that we all deal with and experience. Whether it's physical/verbal, and through ourselves or someone else... we've all experienced anger. This book helps people dive deeper into the ins and outs of this secondary emotion that gets a prime spotlight. Like for starters, I didn't even know that anger was a secondary emotion! For those who also don't know, a secondary emotion is a response or feeling we have about a different (primary) emotion. Our brains like to make things complicated 😂
  
  Feeling angry is okay!! It's important to feel all your feelings, and learn how to sit with them, but it's not okay to be reactionary and take your feelings out on your loved ones (or enemies 😜) This book has a separate workbook if you so choose to further examine the workings of your own personal life.
  
  There are also A LOT of mental health issues that anger can be a symptom of, and this book acknowledges that seeking help is not such a simple path especially when considering financial, time, and socioeconomical constraints. Unfuck Your Anger does have a lot of supplemental information regarding how to pinpoint and identify situations that may activate your amygdala as well as tips/trick on how to reset and bring yourself back to base level.
  
  I really enjoyed learning about the neurological and physiology aspects of anger. The better we understand what we're experiencing and why, the better we can express our needs and boundaries. On top of that, the better we are at identifying primary emotions and naming them for what they are, the less likely people are to misidentify how they are feeling since people are so used to using sad/mad/glad as umbrella terms.
  
  The coolest fact I learned was that anger can be considered a form of mania 🤯
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  Kayley Steele

  Content -  The content focuses on delivering a clear and straightforward understanding of anger and associated emotions that follow. It includes strategies for identifying anger and some techniques for minimizing the output of anger. Faith Harper's self help books are normally written in a way for basic understanding, the second half of this book starts diving into more technical strategies and jargon that may not be easy for some readers/listeners. Like her other books there were plenty of exercises for the reader to try.
  
  Audio Quality - Good, listened via audible.
  
  Overall -  Was a good listen, simple to follow along with.
  
  Recommendation - . Recommend to anyone wanting a basic understanding of anger , and associated emotions. If you want to learn how to identify your trigger for anger and how to process this emotion this could be a good book for you
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  Jay Raams

  Had some good advice. The author also suggests a few calming and noting techniques that seem to be useable but time will tell.
  
  The author did bring up Love Languages, it was only briefly mentioned. Knowing the
  pseudoscientific and homophobic basis of this theory it does make me more sceptical of the advice given by the author.
  
  Edit, after reading Unfuck Your Anxiety, I have changed my mind about the author and the advice they give. In that book she expands on her book "This is your brain on Anxiety", which shows the unsafe and pseudoscience she believes in and promotes. It's frustrating to have anxiety and always be told eat this of take that go to a chiropractor. Please note chiropractors are proven to be dangerous, I mean just look at the guy who invented it. Yeah fuck this book
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  Bojana Paunovic

  Anger is a secondary emotion
  Forgiveness is necessary for your body, you can only have an impact on your relationships with others.
  For eg, you cant forgive Hitler for what he did to your grandma, but you can forgive the impact that her stories had on you and how they made you feel.
  Why is controlled anger important?
  It almost always hides other emotions.
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  Jennifer Wells

  I really wanted to enjoy this, but it lacked the science I was looking for. I did enjoy that the author was down to Earth and explained things in a way that made sense. However, the use of f*ck frequently where it did not add anything to the message was distracting (coming from someone who uses the word very often). It felt like the author was trying too hard to be hip and edgy. I have read another one of her books and enjoyed it, but this one fell short for me.
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  Amy

  I’m really loving this author’s approach. She speaks to me in a way I understand and identify with (I like swearing). Great tips to try - especially on forgiveness. Most of this author’s “Unf*ck” series are included with Audible Membership. Bonus: I’m a big fan of the narrator (she reads my favorite Elin Hinderbrant books).
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  Christian Crowley

  With this slim volume I learned some good tips for observing, understanding, and dealing with emotions, as well as why this is worth doing. I plan to read some of Dr Harper's other books on boundaries, intimacy, depression, neuroscience, etc.
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  Marie Duke

  Seems to be a shortened version of Unfuck Your Brain. It's okay, but if I am reading a series, I want some new concepts. Some of the sentences seemed exactly the same. She still randomly cusses just to look cool. It reminds me of a middle-schooler learning to cuss.
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  Lauren Thompson

  At first I found all the fucks and shits and dicks etc etc etc to be funny and comforting but after a while it felt kitchy and over done. There are some nice points in here with tangible takeaways. It's a short read but felt more like a waste of time than I hoped for.
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  Diana

  Loved it! Just the right amount.
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  Cora

  Nothing new or groundbreaking. Just good advice on understanding anger and methods to work through it. She dumbed it down by cussing a lot.
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  Alaayassen

  Good and very helpful but alot of unnecessary cursing .
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  Mollie

  A very quick, easy read. It gives a lot of clear information without jargon that someone new to mental health might not know. There are a few plugs for her other books but not terrible. The second half includes ways to really dig into your own anger and how to explore it.
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  Priya

  2.75 stars. Nothing new was discussed
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  Teles Lauzon

  Short, direct, and uses casual language. Great for anyone intimidated by larger self-help books.