The Science of Likability: 27 Studies to Master Charisma, Attract Friends, Captivate People, and Take Advantage of Human Psychology by Patrick King

The Science of Likability: 27 Studies to Master Charisma, Attract Friends, Captivate People, and Take Advantage of Human Psychology Reviews

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  Mohamed Eldesoky

  يعتبر دراسة مهمة في تكوين علاقات اجتماعية و اكتساب صداقات و ازاي تأثر في الناس و جذب انتباه الآخرين بأسلوب شيق و بسيط و ملخص
  _يسهل تحويل الأعداء الي أصدقاء عن طريق فعل واحد بسيط هو أن تطلب منه معروفا
  _أساليب التفاوض ( الباب في الوجة / القدم في الباب)
  _ ينبغي أن تتجنب المنافسة مع النساء و كن مدركا ان المنافسة تدفع الرجال لتحقيق ذواتهم و تمنحهم الرضا عن انفسهم
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  David Skinner

  Not bad. I got it because it was cheap. He basically quotes a bunch of other authors. He has few original ideas. I say that he had original ideas, but only because I am giving him the benefit of the doubt. I don't remember any of them. He makes good points, but does not bring anything really new to the table.
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  Daniel Gaddy

  Good stuff in here. But King spent too much time providing examples to concepts that were easy enough to comprehend. Definitely worth the time and money, but as short as it is, I think it could have been even shorter.
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  Kari Olfert

  Gave me the vibes of Dale Carnegie's How to win friends and influence people or Robert Green's, The Laws of Human Nature. So if you haven't read those then definitely just read this lol
  
  The nugget out of this book, for me, was the leadership/coaching styles
  
  1. Visionary: come with me to a better world
  2. Coaching: try this you might learn from it
  3. Affiliate: only if everyone feels good about it
  4. Democratic: what does everyone think?
  5. Pace-setting: do more faster
  6. Commanding: do what I say
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  Annie

  I would give this book 3.5 stars. The tips are likely obvious to many people just through everyday interactions, like find something positive about the person and compliment him, act like a friend (not guarded like a stranger) and the person will start to see you as a friend, and find things in common with the person. There are few tips that might not be commonly known, such as ask the person who dislikes you for a favor ("Can you help me with writing the report?"). This is a subtle compliment hidden in the request, so the person might be willing to help you. Doing the favor but disliking you at the same time creates a cognitive dissonance - inconsistency of helping someone she dislikes. Therefore, she might change how she feels about you to eliminate that inconsistency. If you don't even do the few obvious tips mentioned above, the book is useful. There are 14 short chapters. To develop the habits to increase your likability, practice the tips in each chapter for the week before moving on.
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  Ana

  It was good, but it did not tell me anything I didn't know before.
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  Omar

  الدراسات التي يحتوي عليها الكتاب قد لا تبهرك او لا تشكل معرفه جديده هو ان تعرف ما تعرفه انه يشبه مراجعه لما نقوم به في الواقع او نعجز علي ان نقوم به
  
  الكتاب ليس منهج لتصبح ذو خبره بل هو كتاب جيد يمكنك ان تقرأه بين كتابين دسمين ليصبح مثل وجبه خفيفه سهلة الادراك
  
  في الفصول الاولي يتحدث باترك عن التشابه وفن خلق التشابه لتكوين الصداقات فالناس يحبون من يشبههم ففي التشابه والتواجد خلق صداقه قوي بجانب اخبار الاخرين عنك بدل من خلق قصص وهميه قد تضر منك في عقولهم
  
  وايضا في جنبات الكتاب تجد اساليب الاداره طاغيه وتلك الجنبات التي تضرب معني الكتاب ضرب مغاير حيث تحدث عن الاداره وانواع المديرين صاحب الرؤيا والاب والمتحكم في سرعة العمل وغيره كما تحدث عن خلق الصداقه معي العدو في العمل عن طريق المعروف فتطلب منه معروف يقوم به في وقت ٣ دقائق
  
  الكاريزما وقوة الحضور ليس لها علاقه بقوه ودقة الكلمات بل بمن يتكلم اسرع ويجيب اسرع فأن الحضور بالفطنه وليسه بالدقه ولكن تختلف الموازين حين تدخل في جماعه فالجماعه دائما تصل الي نقطه نحن وهم وهو يعتبر العامل الاساسي في خلق الجماعات العنصريه والريداكيليه
  
  اما فخاتمه الكتاب كانت دسمه لقد اعترف باتريك بالفعل بأن الكتاب ليس كبير او ذا معني وقد وضع دراستين من دورها ان تثير انتباه القارئ واولها هي كلما اسرعت كان افضل
  والانتهاكات الاخلاقيه غير المؤذيه
  وقد تحدثت عنهم
  
  اما عن فن الثرثره فقد تحدث فيه واعتبره جزء من حياه الانسان فالشامبانزي لديه حضور اجتماعي والانسان لديه الثرثره واعطي نصيحه واحده هي هندما تشارك في الثرثره فبادر بالاشياء الايجابيه في الشخص لان الاشخاص
  سيربطون بين ما انت عليه وبين ما تصف به غيرك
  
  الكتاب ليس سئ ولا جيد هو كتاب عادي يمكن ان يكون رفيقك في السفر ليشجعك علي فتح حوار معي من يجلس بجانبك فقرأه
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  Moh

  Very entertaining and informative book about the psychology of likeability
  
  This book was a really fun read!
  
  I picked this book because the title was catchy, but I didn’t have a real purpose for reading it beyond intrigue and curiosity. The author did a great job delivering valuable knowledge about likeability works.
  
  The book touches on how we people perceive each other and how you can control people’s perceptions of you. Some great ideas in the book are: asking people to do you favors maks them perceiv you as a friend, balancing positive and negative feedback helps creating positive work environments, coming across as humble and equal to your friends causes them to trust you more, showing confidence and credibility tends to attract people around you, and many more tips.
  
  All said, I do worry about the problem of genuine vs artificial behavior. I do believe that people can easiy spot artificial behavior, even if it’s positive, and end up disliking the person. I also would have liked the author to discuss when likeability is the wrong thing to aim for, but I understand that it’s out of scope of this book.
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  Luiz Fabricio Calland Cerqueira

  Better than I expected
  
  See; first of all, this book lost a whole star because I had the whispersinc to voice version. The narrator was heinous. I finished the book and I'm not sure if it was a robot or a human. It sounded wrong, like sintetized voice failing spectacularly in imprint emotions in sentences. Sounded like an agonizing dying metal bird.
  
  On the other hand, the content is better than I expected. Quite robust in scientific references and straight to the point. Felt a couple chapters were a bit silly; should be better explored or edited out (eg; leadership chapter). But overall, it was nice and informative.
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  Kristin

  For me, The Science of Likeability is a 3 star book. It's interesting and it has helpful tips; however, some of it's content is either painfully obvious or seems a little over the top.
  
  Regardless, I gained some valuable insight and really think that certain chapters were more helpful than others - and worth revisiting when I have questions - while others didn't seem to be very helpful.
  
  I liked having a book that I could pick up and read and then drop for a few days without feeling like I was missing out or forgot major plot points. The Science of Likeability is a great leisurely book to read.
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  Christopher Carver

  Extremely basic and much of the advice was terrible. Here's one example:
  
  "So to appear more charismatic, it’s clearly better to speak first and loudly, even if you have nothing to say and even if you are speaking gibberish. Slow and silent, while it may not be seen as negative, clearly won’t have the overwhelming positive effect that acting quickly will have."
  
  Apparently, if you want to be charismatic, it doesn't matter what you say as long as you say it quickly.
  
  This book was a waste of time and money.
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  Kyle Robins

  This book is a quick read about the various wars in which we can consciously take advantage of natural human physiology to form better relationships and creat greater influence in our lives.
  
  My favorite takeaway from this book is the tendency of our thoughts about others to be true. If we take the time to actively decide to look at people in a positive light, I️t may very well be the case that they “magically” begin to act in alignment with our thoughts.
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  Kevin

  The author either cannot or will not differentiate between being likable, and manipulating people.
  
  That he can’t see it is alarming. That 90% of the reviews can’t see it is a further indication as to the great Republic crumbling at its foundations.
  
  “I can fake anything except sincerity,” goes the old quote.
  
  Yes he does. Got through chapter 1.
  
  Pure sociopath, and a best selling author! Sound familiar * cough cough orange clown. *
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  Michael Janov

  Nice Refresher, Some Aha Moments
  
  Nothing blew my mind, but there were several "aha..." moments that I could relate to actions and habits of my more sociable friends, peers, and role models. If nothing else, it's a great little book to refresh on some topics and keep them at the forefront during my day to day. The very short and focused chapters make that easier to accomplish.
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  MD

  Unlike How to Win Friends that tells you that people like compliments but Carnegie is quick to point out only make a sincere compliment, this book tells you to pretend to be clumsy and gossip can be great for bonding. But in the conclusion this author tells you not to pretend to be clumsy, that’s not the way to use the knowledge given in the book. WTF?
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  Ben RABETAFIKA

  Very simple
  
  I have learned something from this book for sure. It content is not as solid as I expected though. I am disappointed on how simple the book was but it can also be the good side of it -- especially for people beginning to explore these topics.
  Considering the price, it was a good bargain. Thanks Mr. King for sharing.
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  Juan Manuel Vera

  Interesante, ágil y atractivo
  
  Es un libro muy interesante con ideas claras sobre como actuar. Los estudios que presenta son útiles y los consejos prácticos.
  
  Los probaré y comentaré si sin efectivos.
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  Laura

  Nothing new or earth shattering. More importantly, the author should perhaps, look for someone else to do the narration. I nearly pulled my hair out listening to his voice. If you're interested in this book, I highly recommend that you read the physical version.