| Title | : | Waiting to Exhale (Waiting To Exhale #1) |
| Author | : | |
| Rating | : | |
| ISBN | : | 0451217454 |
| ISBN-10 | : | 9780451217455 |
| Language | : | English |
| Format Type | : | Paperback |
| Number of Pages | : | 448 |
| Publication | : | First published May 28, 1992 |
Waiting to Exhale (Waiting To Exhale #1) Reviews
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Love this book so much. Bernadine made me laugh like crazy!!! Definitely read this book it will make your year!!!
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Read this in the early/mid-nineties before the movie came out (which I also really liked and cemented my devoted fangirling of Angela Bassett).
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This is a case where I actually thought the movie was better than the book. The scene where Angela Bassett's character torches her philandering husband's vehicle with all his worldly goods inside was worth the price of admission.
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I read this book in high school and I was disgusted! Then in African American Lit class for my junior year, we watched the movie, and I still hated it!
But it wasn't until I went to college that the book and its' leading ladies reverberated with my soul and outlook on men, life, and love!
One of my friends, who is Hispanic, said the book was stupid! And I and every other black woman looked at her and said she was crazy as hell! And I vehemently told her she'll NEVER experience what Black women feel and deal with!
Yes, I was blind as a teenager, never dating and/or dealing with men until college, but damnit, I see now!
I finally experienced what Robin had felt, feeling uneasy in your expensive jewelry and designer clothes fit for a fancy restaurant (which was supposed to be the venue) at a party full of sex, drug and alcohol addicts.
I finally experienced what Gloria was going through, trying so hard to be perfect for a man that doesn't want you and damn near killing yourself in the process!
I finally experienced Savannah's quest for more in life and more from a Black man, not making any more foolish choices or listening to anymore empty broken promises.
And yes, I finally experienced Bernadine's anger after having a Black man tell me that what I wouldn't "put out" could be easily gotten from a white girl...
I had already re-read the book before this conversation took place (it was on a friend's shelf) and my mind was made up then, but to hear ignorance being expounded upon from one who will never know what Terry McMillian so eloquently captured in words is the reason why this book is SO important!
I'll be the first to tell you that I am not a major advocate for Black novel/romance, for they tend to dwell on the superficial, glorify homophobia and the negative of Black life heavily, but this is one time that I must bow down and say, "I stand corrected!" -
That’s What Friends Are For
I originally read WAITING TO EXHALE in the 90s when I was a teenager. A group of us decided to reread the story to see if it would have the same impact on as mature women. I have never reread a book before. I was under the impression that doing so the story wouldn’t be as interesting and predictable. As key parts of the story, the line up from the movie played out, I could actually hear Whitney Houston, Lela Rochon, Loretta Devine and Angela Bassett’s voices.
Savannah has decided it’s time to leave Denver. She’s hoping that even though she’s taking a pay cut, that life in Phoenix will be very different for her, especially in the love department.
Bernadine’s husband, John, has just informed her after eleven years of marriage that he wants a divorce. While she wasn’t happily invested in their marriage, she never expected that he’d bail on her.
Robin has been doing every single thing she could think to find a man to love her. Each man she believes is the one has some sort of affliction or another.
Gloria has spent her entire adult life raising her son, Tarik, and running her beauty salon, the Oasis.
Successful in business, the women are all dealing with issues ranging from weight, caring for their parents, low self-esteem, single parenting, and stupid exes. The friends learn to navigate through it all and support one another.
What I absolutely love about WAITING TO EXHALE is that McMillan allows you to see the women in different stages and witness their growth. While desperation is the obvious fear, they all learn to love themselves, which is a very important lesson for all women. -
Not exactly sure why I read this. I suppose it was entertaining enough, but the writing was atrocious. The dialogue seemed wooden and disjointed (not to mention unnecessarily vulgar at times), but maybe since I was born in '86 I can't properly understand the plight of thirty something black women in the early '90s. Either way it was a quick read. I didn't hate it, but I also was disappointed by the lack of resolution at the end. I may have been better off just watching the movie, lol
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Audio # 147
Fantastic novel about empowering women who aren’t perfect but can learn from their mistakes. I loved being given a peek into their minds and listening to them make their decisions. I’d probably make the same ones. -
This is the tale of four black women who are friends in early 1990s Phoenix, Arizona. I can't say I found any of the woman all that likable; they're so whiny and man-hungry. We first meet Savannah, never married and without children at thirty-six. She's affluent, doing well in her career in public relations, but tired of being single and of the faults of "buppie" (young black urban professional) males. She tells us, "I worry about if and when I'll ever find the right man, if I'll ever be able to exhale." Her friend from college Bernadine is being divorced by her husband who has insulted her by leaving her for a "white woman." Because, she imagines, he needs a white woman to treat him like a king. (Frankly, the racism of these characters was a major turn off for me.) Gloria, a working mother, is using food to fill up the emptiness inside, while Robin uses sex. I do like the sisterly solidarity between the four, but for me the plot is creaky, their voices too similar, this doesn't strike me as all that well-written and all the male bashing got old as the women move from one jerk to another.
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I’ve always been a huge fan of the movie. In fact, it’s probably one of my top 10 favorite movies of all time! I came into this book a little skeptical. Not because I thought the book would be bad....but I prefer having my books spoiler free, meaning not having watched the movie first.
I absolutely LOVED this book! It got more into depth with the characters I loved so much and really painted a brighter picture for me. I loved how raw these ladies were. Cursing, wild sexcapades and just being themselves and not giving a damn what society thought of them. As a woman dating in today’s world, I found this book to be extremely relatable.
Looking forward to reading part 2 to continue to follow the lives of these ladies. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️💫 from me! -
This book has so many early 90s moments that I was often laughing as the characters listen to Paula Abdul in their Nissans while committing various fashion and hair crimes. No suede dress or fuschia lipstick is left undescribed.
The detailed episodes of lousy sex that the main characters endure with every possible kind of loser are funny and icky. Also the constant swearing and foul-mouthedness is great. This book has a light-heartedness that is endearing. Things are bought and used for pleasure; friends are lovingly cursed at; mothers are loved, supported, and often obeyed. Music is for dancing and champagne is for birthdays.
Unfortunately the character development is not as lovingly detailed, and I often could not remember which of the four major characters was narrating because their voices are too similar. Sometimes the dialog is good, and sometimes it is really, really bad. And the plot moves clunkily. -
More like 4.5 stars
Waiting to Exhale is one of those books I should have read years ago. Literally every woman and her mama have become familiar with the lives of Savannah, Bernadine, Robin and Gloria, and I did also, but through the movie version (which I love). But now that I've finally read the book, I can say it lives up to the phenomenon it once was back in the early 1990s. Of course, it's much more fleshed out in the book, and I can see how Terry McMillan stirred so many black women and how the novel inspired countless imitators in its genre.
That being said, I truly enjoyed this novel, and the women are flawed but lovable. Can't ask for anything more. Now I'm off to read the sequel, Getting to Happy. And watch the movie for the 79838697392th time. -
Before the pap that was How Stella Got Her Groove Back, Terry McMillan wrote the brilliant Waiting to Exhale, a story of four female friends and their triumphs and failures in their relationships with men.
::: The New Musketeers :::
As the novel opens, Savannah has just quit her job to move to a new job in Phoenix, where her friend Bernadine lives, in hopes of furthering her career and moving from public relations to television producing. Bernadine herself has just found out that her husband has not only been having an affair, but is leaving her for a white woman. Bernadine's other two friends, Gloria and Robin, aren't faring much better; Gloria is struggling with her teenage son, Tarik, and Robin is up to her eyeballs in debt and involved with a philandering loser who uses her for money, Russell.
Not one of the four seems to be able to find a good man. Savannah is too picky; Gloria is too wrapped up in her hair salon and raising her son on her own; Robin picks all the wrong men; and Bernadine finds that she has given her all to a man for eleven years and lost her own identity in the process. Savannah's move to Phoenix seems to coincide with changes in all their lives, as Bernadine finds a life outside her husband (after a scene made famous in the movie where she dumps her husband's designer suits in his BMW and sets the whole thing on fire), Gloria begins to let go of her son, Robin realizes that she doesn't always need a man to be with her, and that it's better to be alone than with the wrong man just to be with someone, and Savannah learns to let go and open up a little bit.
::: All For One and One For All :::
Throughout all the ups and downs with men, some serious and some downright comical, what comes through is how important friendship between women can be, both when life is going well and when it's not. Each one of the women has something to learn from the others, be it a willingness to loosen up a little, or a need to become more responsible. Throughout it all, the friends are able to accept each other as they are, even when they disagree with life choices. All three friends know that Robin's boyfriend Russell is a no-account loser, but accept that she needs to realize that on her own, even as they vent about him to each other.
McMillan's writing makes the women's relationships as well as their experiences tangible. Every woman can relate to Savannah's horror at finding herself stuck with a clingy man who was introduced by friends, and every woman will sigh when Bernadine meets James, who may well be the perfect man aside from his wife. While the focus is on four African-American women, the friendships and experiences with men are something that any woman can relate to, even if some of the characterizations of the men they meet border on stereotype. Their relationships with men don't define their lives; they merely reflect them. This book is a must-read.
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I liked a lot and found a lot to be fine. I think in 1992 this book would’ve felt ground shaking. Some fun pop culture stuff. Some fun friendships. A lot of stereotypes.
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One of my favorite books by her.
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Such a great book - told from the viewpoints of each character, Savannah, Robin, Bernadette & Gloria.
This group of friends each deal with their own problems in life - especially men. But their friendship bonds them.
Considering that I’ve seen this movie more times than I can count - I enjoyed getting the full scope of their characters from the book. And honestly, the ending was what I needed! It left them slightly open but still have the closure to their storylines that we don’t get from the movie.
There’s a reason this is a classic! -
Господи, какая отличная книга
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I love how nineties this is! I WANT to hear about people dancing to Caribbean Queen, Janet Jackson and Paula Abdul!! McMillan draws such great characters too - and has such a lovely, real storytelling style - I was surprised about how salty the language was! And I loved it! It made me laugh.
it is light - think sex and the city before sex and the city even existed - and its mainly about getting a guy (which got a little tiresome after a while) but under the lightness there's grit and steel! of course theres stuff about race and racism, but also AIDs and local politics. i think this must have been pretty revolutionary for black women when it first came out! -
Reread- July 25, 2019
Still a favorite~ -
This was a buddy read and I really enjoyed this book.
It was a story of career driven black women, friendships and relationships. I honestly felt like I identified or had girlfriends that identified with each woman in the book.
Before I knew it was a book I watched the movie and it’s one of my favorite movies.
While reading the book, I was able to picture Angela Bassett as Bernadine, Whitney Houston as Savanna, Loretta Devine as Gloria and Lela Rachon as Robin. It brought it to life for me. I could also hear Mary J. Blige and Whitney Houston’s soundtracks in certain parts on the book. The movie did leave out a lot of topics that were discussed in a book but that is understandable. That’s why I prefer books. Lol.
Robin frustrated me the most but found her happy ending. Actually all of took their power back at the end and got their happy ending. ❤️
I really appreciated that it was a group of black career-driven women and it included topics that affect the black community. It was written in the 90s so it definitely took me back to the 90s. Some things was a little outdated but that was expected. I will definitely be reading the sequel! -
Great quick read!
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Four black women living in Phoenix in the 90s.
Savannah decides to leave Denver for Phoenix. The pretense is a new job, but it's one that forces her to take a paycut. Which is a bit crazy considering she's also supporting her mother financially. Based on what comes out about her past, I believe she is just bouncing from one city to the next hungrily searching for something to make her feel complete. I think she believes this is a man, that love will finally make her happy and feel whole. Really, she desperately needs to find herself.
Bernadine is trapped in a loveless marriage with a man she doesn't much care for and knows cheats on her. Yet she's still completely blindsided when he decides to leave her. I think she believed that by letting him screw around and not questioning him about it, they had some unspoken agreement to stay together for the kids: to be a team.
Gloria has spent her life being more or less married to her son. She's trying to raise a good man all on her own, eschewing any chance at romance with anyone other than his father who doesn't want her and barely has anything to do with the boy. She also struggles with her weight and running her own salon. She needs to learn to love herself and that she's worthy of love too.
Robin is entirely too obsessed with astrology, numerology, and other mysticism rather than taking responsibility and control for her own life. She's sexually aggressive, which isn't a bad thing, but she has terrible taste in men so she's constantly bouncing between several who aren't worthy of her while pushing away the only one who is worth her time.
Another book that has me torn. I enjoyed so much about the book. I liked the stories of their lives (yes even Robin's was interesting at times even if not instantly relatable). I loved how much there was in her of depth: social issues that impact us all (aging parents, raising children, marriage), well known black issues (HIV, crack, gangs), presumably real issues for any minority living in an area where there isn't a large percentage of the population to interact and identify with (such as black people in Phoenix). I love that these friends have each other, learn from each other, and support each other. There are so many little lessons in here. But...
The lack of resolution is troubling. I get that life goes on and sometimes it's not tied up in a pretty little bow. But books, are at the very least tied up even if it's not a pretty little bow. This book feels like the author eventually just stopped writing. I don't like that. I also realize that anytime you have a book told from multiple viewpoints, there is the chance of getting confused. But 2 of the stories are told in first person and 2 are not. That is infinitely confusing, especially when there is no chapter header to tell you which lady is speaking. Sometimes it takes several pages to even get to a line of dialogue where someone calls her by her name so you can figure out which life you are reading about. I can't even use the supporting characters to figure out what is going on. Even the stuff they talk about has enough overlap that it's not readily apparent. It was just terribly taxing to keep it all straight until about 2/3 of the way through.
And lastly, there was one major issue I had with Bernadine. There is a scene in which John has upset her yet again via Onika (their daughter). Onika is babbling on about her visit with John and the events of that visit, which upsets Bernadine. John Junior (the son) calls Onika a bitch, slaps her, and tells her to shut up because she talks too much and upset their mom. Bernadine listens on & watches all this from the secrecy of her bedroom WITH GLEE. Ok. I have an issue that she thinks this is appropriate behavior. It just seems to me that no, her son is not "on her side". Her son is exhibiting exactly the kind of behaviors that the ladies in the book complain about in the men they date. What type of man is he becoming?! And what kind of woman are you raising in your daughter by showing her that this is acceptable behavior from a man?! This scene alone significantly hurt an otherwise great book. -
IQ "I know I'm not going to hear from him. And I hate the thought that I made a fool of myself. That I spilled my guts. Made my most intimate feelings known. How could somebody who acted so since be so insincere? How could he play with my feelings like this? I would never do this kind of shit to anybody." Savannah, 372
^Speak.On.It. It's probably just the frame of mood I'm in right now but those words perfectly capture how irritated I feel right now at placing myself in a similar situation. And there was no happy ending for either of us although of course we'll survive and move on. Just a quick digression, moving on.
I finally saw this movie last year and then a few days ago I decided to read the book since it's been in our home library for as long as I can remember. It has both a blessing and a cursing that this book is so dated. Personally I don't think it holds up well because there have been so many other books and a sprinkling of films and a plethora of articles that are easily accessible online that discuss the same things the author does in this book. However that is not the fault of the author so while I felt like it was redundant I recognize that at the time it was released, it was revolutionary. Using the characters the author is able to delve into a variety of conversation driven issues that white America was likely unaware of and confirm to Black women that they are not crazy for feeling the way they do. But the beauty of the book being so dated is also that I got a great feel for 30something 90s life, the author is incredibly descriptive of the music the women listen to, the slang they use, the popular contraceptives and the clothes they wear. It was eye opening (for example they talk about douching which every gyno now advises against) and amusing. Plus the Arizona setting puts you right in the thick of the battle to get MLK Day recognized (although I wish she had mentioned the political reasoning for why there was opposition). I also found the rumors swirling around HIV/AIDs to be chilling but enthralling, I was aware that SOME people at first had crazy paranoid reactions but McMillan manages convey the gravity of the situation as MOST people overreacted when they learned someone they knew had been diagnosed.
It should be noted that I absolutely hated Robin though and was veering toward that with Gloria as well. I have no patience in real life for friends who consistently make awful boy decisions and that carries over into my reading habits apparently. I raced through her chapters because she annoyed me so much and Gloria just made me sad because she had no life. But at least Gloria's life is looking up at the end, I wish I could say the same for Robin. I hope the author exaggerated the character of Robin because I shudder to think they are women out there who are that foolish, although I didn't appreciate how her friends slut shamed her constantly (so I guess I'll give McMillan credit for making me feel an ounce of sympathy and understanding). Bernie is also frustrating at first but out of all the characters it seemed like she actually grew into her own by the end and she was the most entertaining to read about. Also this is more of my own hang up but I finished this book in an absolute panic that I won't be afford to take care of my parents and am now struggling with the urge to switch career paths. So there's that. And that there's no hope for me when I'm ready to date. But again that's personal and I tried not to let it affect my review, if anything it speaks to the strength of the author because she really managed to hit home with all the issues she brings up.
Ultimately this is an enduring tale because of the beautifully portrayed friendship and unfortunately because Black women and men still have such a long way to go and the issues of class, race and gender aren't going anywhere. Some people may be annoyed by all the 80s and 90s references but I found it enjoyable. -
This was my second time reading the book. I first read it in high school, because I'd always heard the book and movie were really good. When I read it in high school, I lowkey hated the characters. I thought they were birds, and didn't understand all the wrong choices they made in men. But I was like 15, 16 years old so I thought I'd think better of it if I read it now since I'm older. Well I'm 24, almost 25 now, and I still think they're birds and I don't understand all of the bad choices they made in men. Savannah was preachy, and obviously the author's self-insert, the situation with Gloria and Tarik's dad still is really annoying, Robin's a bird, but like the sky is blue so that's not saying much, I think Bernadine is still my favorite, because she was the least bird-y of them all. Her night with James was really well written, and I felt the love and connection between them. Gloria and Marvin were done better in the movie than the book. Robin's arc was somewhat satisfying, because she finally learned how to love herself without a man, but sis is way too old to be so ditzy. I think I dislike Savannah more now than I did in high school, because it's so obvious that she thinks she's better than Robin, but she makes the same or even worse choices than her so I don't get where she gets off making all of the preachy rants that she makes. But I digress. Now I'm about to end this review and go listen to the movie soundtrack.
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the movie & the book were great ! I read this book in High School =)(= & i SEEN THE MOVIE BEFORE THAT. THE MOVIE DID THE BOOK & movie are sightly different but the movie still does the book JUSTICE & THEN SOME.
I CAN SEE MYSELF AS A ROBIN ( minus the naive parts ) hopeful for love then as Bernadine if it all crashes down :).
I think all the women deserved what they needed & learned what they were suppose to learn ; especially your girl Bernie she's the real winner with a good heart through and through.
These women were successful, intelligent, & just fed up (who wouldn't be) black women deal with alot and these sista's did and still remained strong and depended on eachother.
I learned from this book
It's not easy being a single mom
It's not easy being single
It’s not easy being a wife who put her dreams off to be a good wife !
It's not easy going through a divorce
And it's damn sure not easy looking for mr. Right.
But with GOD and your sister girls, anything is possible. This book was so good and an ultimate fav for me, it was better than the cheaply made 2nd book .
No matter how old i,am this book will always be relatable and current well done Terry !!! -
Hands up everyone who has ever had too much wine and wants to cry but ends up laughing with her friends. That's the birthday party scene. Real. Aching. And laugh out loud funny.
When I was teaching African American literature, I would include Waiting to Exhale after my students had made their way through Toni Morrison's Beloved. They exhaled in relief.
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I need to rewatch this movie. It seems to me they must have toned down the language quite a bit, which is okay. I love these four women and their trials and tribulations, especially with regard to the men in their lives. It is tough out there to find a good relationship, especially one providing intimacy, respect, love, kindness, and generosity. But they always end up hanging together and supporting each other, even when/if one of them is exhibiting some immaturity, etc. That's what it's all about! Loving each other regardless...'unconditional positive regard' is tough to do sometimes, but a great thing to have in relationships!
Anxious to read the sequel,
Getting to Happy! -
Overall, I enjoyed reading this one. It made me laugh, smile, roll my eyes and sigh, and if entertainment was the aim, I definitely felt entertained. I also appreciated it as a work that gave representation of Black Women during the 90s (an added bonus my copy is a vintage one I found in a thrift store). Waiting to Exhale gave me the opportunity to reflect on a time period where my mother and aunties would have been in their 30-40s too. Now, I'm the one who's in the same age range as the main characters and I think that made things hit a little different 🥲
I saw the movie when I was young and plan on rewatching it soon now that I've finished with the stories fresh in my mind, and imagine the movie will also hit a little different. This is my first work by McMillan and I am pretty sure I will be reading others to see how she developed as a writer and and changes in view/voice. I considered the sequel already, but realized that was written more recently, so it can wait (no pun intended).
I'm feeling like this is more of a 3.5 for me, where normally I would round up but some things that couldn't be ignored was just how much fat phobia was in it, and it just kind of kept occurring so much I had to take away my recommendation to a close friend. I understand that it is representative of the views back then and the pressures on Black women especially to be conventionally sexy/fine etc, but some of it was still cringy. Like okay we GET it. That's probably my only real criticism of the book. -
Phenomenal book! I read this book thinking that it would be something that I wouldn’t understand because of adult women problems. I finished thinking about how I’m going to face things like this in the very near future! Terry McMillan does not disappoint! 10 Stars!!! Reading Getting To Happy next!
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This book was 100 times funnier than the movie 😂
