The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Childs Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive by Daniel J. Siegel

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Childs Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive Reviews

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  Gail

  Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson’s “The Whole Brain Child” fails to deliver on the titular promise of “revolutionary” parenting strategies to “truly help your kids be happier, healthier, and more fully themselves”; it does, however, provide innovative and effective explanations, packaging, and delivery of many tried-and-true parenting techniques that turn out to be neuroscientifically based.
  
  The first four chapters are the love child of the Johns - Medina’s “Brain Rules for Baby” and Gottman’s “Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child.” Like Medina, Siegel and Bryson show great talent for breaking down complex science into readily understandable terms (they even surpass him when explaining implicit memory). Yet whereas Medina carefully limits himself to truly definitive (i.e., research-backed) conclusions, Siegel and Bryson - like Gottman - go further, using available data as a theoretical springboard for vaunting specific, mostly emotion-related practices. The following seven strategies result: (1) “Connect and Redirect: [Helping Kids Learn to Surf] Emotional Waves”; (2) “Name It to Tame It: Telling Stories to Calm Big Emotions”; (3) “Engage, Don’t Enrage: Appealing to the Upstairs Brain”; (4) “Use It or Lose It: Exercising the Upstairs Brain”; (5) “Move It or Lose It: Moving the Body to Avoid Losing the Mind”; (6) “Use the Remote of the Mind: Replaying Memories”; and (7) “Remember to Remember: Making Recollection a Part of Your Family’s Daily Life.”
  
  The fifth and sixth chapters, however, throw a little of Susan Stiffelman’s “Parenting Without Power Struggles” into the mix, offering child therapy techniques and explaining why they work through the prism of brain science. Strategies eight through twelve are: (8) “Let the Clouds of Emotion Roll By: Teaching That Feelings Come and Go”; (9) “SIFT[, or Sensations, Images, Feelings, and Thoughts]: Paying Attention to What’s Going On Inside”; (10) “Exercise Mindsight: Getting Back to the Hub[, or, Learning to See Your Internal Forest for the Trees]”; (11) “Increase the Family Fun Factor: Making a Point to Enjoy Each Other”; and (12) “Connect Through Conflict: Teach Kids to Argue with a ‘We’ in Mind.”
  
  Their premise is that these twelve strategies help “integrate” children’s brains, that is, “coordinate[] and balance[] the separate regions of the brain” so as to optimize mental health. Using the image of a child inside a canoe floating down a river, they explain that veering close to the bank of chaos leaves the kid feeling too out of control to relax whereas drifting close to the bank of rigidity makes the kid too rigid to function ideally (instead “imposing control on everything and everyone”). “By helping our kids connect left [brain] and right [brain]” - as well as their “upstairs” and “downstairs” brains and implicit and explicit memories - “we give them a better chance of [finding] . . . harmonious flow between the[] two extremes,” which in turn will minimize tantrums and other results of “dis-integration.” Of course, they warn, the results won’t be perfect both because we should expect imperfection in ourselves as parents and because kids are biologically unable to always “be rational, regulate their emotions, make good decisions, think before acting, and be empathetic.”
  
  So far all we’ve got is clever packaging and some fun analogies for pretty standard knowledge regarding keeping kids calm. The true deliciousness of what Siegel and Bryson bring to the table is a self-awareness that is two-fold, one not unique and the other truly so. First, like Medina, the authors apply their knowledge of the brain to their own project, creating a structure that maximizes retention and usefulness, including the descriptive “strategies” as chapter sub-headings, a “refrigerator sheet” that summarizes a few details under each strategy, an “ages and stages” chart that emphasizes different applications for children of different ages, and acronyms (e.g., “before you over-analyze the situation, HALT and check the basics: is your little [one] simply hungry, angry, lonely, or tired?”).
  
  Second, and most thrilling, the authors provide graphics and suggestions for talking to kids about the way their brains and bodies work, giving children an opportunity to consciously take part in regulation of their own emotions and behavior. For the past few years, I’ve tried to provide my toddler with ownership over her well-being, telling her about some of the parenting techniques I read about, giving her a head’s up that I intend to use them, and then chatting about their effectiveness. But I’ve never read about doing this in a parenting book, and certainly haven’t heard anyone suggest starting with brain science. At their suggestion I said to my toddler, “You know how when you’re happy, your brain puts a smile on your face? Well, the same thing works backwards a little. If you smile for a while, even if you’re sad, you’ll start to feel a bit better.” And that’s just the beginning. Pretty freaking cool, guys.
  
  Finally, I want to share two interesting tidbits from “The Whole Brain Child” approach that contradict standard parenting advice but perfectly align with my parenting instincts:
  
  “An upstairs tantrum occurs when a child essentially decides to throw a fit. . . . A downstairs tantrum is completely different. Here, a child becomes so upset that he’s no longer able to use his upstairs brain.” With respect to the former, parents ought to follow standard advice, ignoring the antics and enforcing pre-established boundaries; when the latter type of fit is in play, however, “a completely different parental response is called for . . . much more nurturing and comforting.”
  
  “In high-stress situations, engage your child’s upstairs brain, which is where his higher-order thinking takes place. Rather than triggering the more primitive and reactive downstairs brain with the ‘Because I said so!’ card, ask questions, collaborate, and even negotiate. The more you can appeal to the upstairs brain and engage him in critical thinking and processing, the more your child will think and act and decide, rather than simply reacting to what he's feeling.”
  
  On the “eh” side of the scale, “The Whole Brain Child” is more useful for older children than younger ones, is often redundant and long-winded (darned brain scientists trying to make information stick), and isn’t as comprehensive as “Parenting with Love & Logic.” But there’s quite a bit to celebrate here. Though Spiegel and Bryson don’t offer much that’s new in the realm of what parents ought to do, “The Whole Brain Child” adds value to the genre in providing the why and organizing the what into an easily understood, memorable, and, yes, at one point even “revolutionary,” how.
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  Kari

  Interesting concepts, and I loved going through the brain and how it works based on our reactions; it brought me back to my psychology days. Although it was interesting to read and gave a few examples of how to implement the practices with children, I find that there is still a disconnect in how to apply it daily. I kept thinking to myself, "well that sounds good and I would love to do that...but how?". I also noticed that they went a little far explaining each concept so that I felt like each paragraph said exactly the same thing, just worded differently, and it became tedious. I wish they would have shortened the repetitiveness of "why" and added more examples of practicing the concepts in specific situations for the "how".
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  Jen Meegan

  I am pleased to add this to my very, very small pile of approved discipline books.
  
  1) It fits in very nicely with our family's go-to discipline philosophy, Positive Discipline (as taught by Jane Nelson)
  2) It doesn't recommend punitive measures like time outs or spanking
  3) it's relatively fast and easy to read with some quick reference tips when you need them most
  4) it's fairly easy to implement...once you've made the paradigm shift, that is.
  5) it honors and respects children and reminds parents that many of the "behavioral problems" we see are, in fact, totally normal developmental phases that children simply need additional support and nuturing to manage through.
  6) it's not just a discipline book....but also a wonderful and eye-opening look at how children develop and what parents can do to ensure their children continue to thrive and grow
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  Mischenko

  I really enjoyed this book. I'm looking forward to using these strategies with my own children especially after learning how I could be handling arguments and emotions in a better way. It's written well and includes many charts and illustrations. My favorite is the summary chart at the end to help you learn how to respond to different age groups. Glad to have read it...
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  Frank Jude

  I'd have given this book five stars if the writing were a bit more engaging; as it is, though the material is often fascinating and incredibly relevant (I've a 28-month old toddler at home!), I found the reading a bit of a slog at times.
  
  What Siegel has done here is, based upon cutting-edge neuro-science, boiled down the info relevant for parenting into 12 strategies to help you guide greater brain integration in your children, from birth through about 12-years old.
  
  The kinds of things we're talking about here are simple strategies to utilize daily experience to help integrate the right and left hemispheres of the brain, the upper and lower structures of the brain, memory, the various aspects of personality and self and other.
  
  For instance: the two strategies for integrating right and left brain are 1) connect and redirect and 2) name it to tame it. For infants and toddlers, the suggestion for the former is to mirror feelings your child is experiencing and use nonverbals to show you understand. Once you've connected, focus an a more appropriate activity. For the latter, you acknowledge and name the feeling ("You look sad; that hurt didn't it?") and then offer a narrative of the experience. At this age, you must be the narrator.
  
  By the time a child is a pre-schooler, and more verbal, these same strategies develop as well, with the first strategy simply listening and repeating back what you've heard; then after the connection is made, directing toward problem solving and more appropriate responses. With the second strategy, he suggests you begin the narrative of what happened and then follow your child's lead, with you filling in where necessary.
  
  By the time the child is 12, in connect and redirect, he suggests you listen and reflect back what you hear your child is saying about how they are feeling, being careful not to condescend or talk down to her. AFter the connecting, redirecting is now directed to planning and perhaps even some discipline.
  
  I picked the most obvious of the examples, but suffice to say that the others offer some really good, solid, practices that would go a long way to make parenting a truly mindfulness-based experience. As he says in the conclusion, by parenting with this kind of attention and intention, we're impacting not just their lives, but the lives of all those they will relate with. This goes beyond the impact they will have on their children and grandchildren. As Bruce Hood makes clear in his The Self Illusion, our brains are not atomistic monads but rather social structures; self and family and community are connected neurologically.
  
  This is the kind of book that will serve as a reference for years to come, and one which I wish more parents would be aware of for the sake of all of us!
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  Ayatullah Magdy

  الكتاب مفيد جداً فى توضيح استراتيجيات وخطوات تعليم أطفالنا كيفية استخدام مخهم بالكامل وليس أحد نصفيه فقط، كما أنه مبنى على فكرة استغلال المواقف اليومية كفرص لتعليم الاطفال مهارات أكثر حتى يزدهروا وليس فقط أن ينجوا.
  يحوى الكتاب العديد من الأمثلة التوضيحية والتعليق عليها لايصال الفكرة بالكامل.
  اسلوب الكتاب بسيط وسلس فى كل فصل يبدأ بالنظرية التى يود شرحها والتى بنيت عليها الاستراتيجيات التى يذكرها لاحقاً.
  ما أعجبنى فى هذا الكتاب والشئ المميز عن كل كتب التربية التى قرأتها انه فى نهاية كل فصل يساعد الابوين على فهم أنفسهم ومساعدتهم على تطبيق الاستراتيجيات على انفسهم ليستخدموا مخهم بالكامل وبالتالى يعيشون حياة افضل بقدرات ومهارات اعلى ويكون من السهل تعليم ذلك لاطفالهما.
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  Sera

  I've been reading about brain development in infants and children since my daughter was born 6 years ago. Understanding how the science of the brain interacts with the behavior of or the ability of a child to learn has led to my having more empathy for and understanding of my child. Many times we have expectations for our children that they can't meet, because their brains haven't been wired to do so yet. In addition, variations in parenting techniques work differently across the various age groups of children based upon their development.
  
  This book is very helpful in helping parents to understand how to help their children integrate the various parts of their brain so that as they grow older they will have the right tools to help them be healthy and happy individuals. The author goes through the different parts of the brain and the states that they are in throughout each stage of a child's development. He then explains how parents can help to integrate parts of the brain via the use of various techniques. There are 12 techniques described in the book, and Siegel does a nice job of providing examples of how to use the techniques. Like any other parenting technique, parents may have to be creative to some extent, but I thought that it was great how Siegel lays out certain questions that parents can act simply to get their kids using a different part of their brain to address the problem.
  
  I also was pleasantly surprised to find that some of the techniques are being used at my daughter's school. She is learning mindfulness and mindful breathing at school. Siegel has a whole chapter dedicated to it the book. Its focus is on how to train the brain to calm itself down and get back to a place where the logical side of the brain takes over from the emotional one. Some of these techniques work for adults, too.
  
  This book isn't about how to make your kids behave or how to turn your kid into a genius. Instead, its focus on how a "whole brain" that is fully integrated will help a child grow into a more functional adult. I also liked that Siegel didn't make me feel that these are things that we need to be working on with our children ad nauseum. Having fun and relaxing with your kids are important, too.
  
  Overall, I highly recommend this book if as a parent, you are interested in this type of thinking or at least understanding how a child's brain works.
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  Jefi Sevilay

  Kitap özetle sağ beyin daha fazla duygulara hitap ederken, sol beynin daha fazla mantık ile ilişkili olduğunu, bununla birlikte bir alt ve üst beyin olduğunu anlatıyor. Bu beyinlerden alt beyin nefes alma, göz kırpma, dövüşme veya kaçma, öfke ve korku gibi primitif duyguları beslerken üst beyin de sağlıklı karar verme, plan yapma, duyguları ve bedeni kontrol altında tutma, kendini anlama, empati kurma, ahlaklı davranma gibi daha sosyal beceriler sağlıyor.
  
  Mesele şu ki evin ilk katı olan alt beyin herkeste var. Bu özellikler doğuştan geliyor. Dolayısıyla da önemli olan yirmili yaşlara kadar gelişmeye devam eden üst beyni inşa edebilmek. Bu yüzden çocuk alt beyinde kısılı kaldığında daha hırçın, daha bencil oluyor. Hedef her zaman üst katı olabildiğince iyi inşa edebilmek olmalı. Mesele sağ ve sol, üst ve alt beynin entegrasyonunu sağlayabilmek.
  
  Bu kitaptan okuduğum kadarıyla, ne kadar travmatik de olsa, çocuklara yaşadıkları olayları kendi ifadeleriyle anlattırmak gerekli. Bununla ilgili birkaç ipucu da veriliyor. Yalnız açıkçası kitaptaki diyalogları beğenmedim. Diyaloglar çok varsayımsal. Yani nasıl konuşmamamız gerektiği söyleniyor ve bununla birlikte de onun yerine "bu şekilde iletişim kurun"u gösteren ilustrasyonlar mevcut. Ancak peki ya çocuk sizin dediğiniz gibi cevap vermeyecekse? Her zaman bu kadar anlayışlı davranmayacaksa o zaman ne olacak?
  
  Kitabın kapağında Bütün Beyinli Çocuk kavramı için devrim yaratan 12 strateji deniyor ancak stratejilerin hiçbiri akılda kalıcı değil. Fotoğraflardaki örnekler çok saçma. Birkaç örnek yazayım dedim ama o bile içimden gelmedi.
  
  Son olarak da basım ve çeviri kalitesini beğenmedim. Çevirmen ne zaman "When," görse "vakit" ifadesini yapıştırmış. Kısacık bir paragrafta üç tane vakit gördüğünüz zaman çok fazla göze batıyor. Halbuki "zaman" veya "nde" şeklinde bir önceki kelimeye de bağlanabilir, daha rafine bir okuma deneyimi yaratılabilirdi.
  
  Herkese keyifli okumalar!
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  Kristen

  If you are a parent, teacher or other person who works with children, I would commend this book to you. By understanding how the brain works, you can survive tough moments and teach children to thrive. The Whole-Brain Child explains both how and why.
  
  The twelve strategies the book explains are:
  Connect then Redirect
  Name It To Tame It
  Engage, Don't Enrage
  Use It Or Lose It
  Move It Or Lose It
  Use The Remote Of The Mind
  Remember To Remember
  Let The Clouds of Emotion Roll By
  SIFT: sensation, image, feeling, and thought
  Exercise Mindsight
  Increase The Family Fun Factor
  Connect Through Conflict
  
  Each strategy is explained both scientifically and practically. There are examples and a particularly helpful appendix chart that give examples of how to use these strategies with various ages. The book also includes cartoons to share these concepts with your kids. This isn't voodoo science you use on your children to control them, these are strategies you share with them so they can have greater control over their own emotions.
  
  I think this book provides tools any parent can use with their children. I have already recommended it many times.
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  Novia Dw

  Satu lagi buku parenting yang menurut saya ✨ wajib ✨ dibaca ✨ semua ✨ orang ✨
  
  Awalnya saya mengira buku ini bersifat lebih universal seperti “The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read”, namun ternyata buku ini lebih menyasar audiens-audiens spesifik seperti orang tua, caregiver, atau guru 😂 Meskipun demikian, I find this book enjoyable too!
  
  Sesuai judulnya, buku ini mengulas cara kerja otak anak-anak dalam tahap pertumbuhannya. Mengapa buku ini mengulas topik yg sangat penting? Dewasa ini, kita sudah akrab (atau bahkan mengalami sendiri) dengan masalah kesehatan mental. Namun, sebenarnya masalah kesehatan mental itu berakar dari perkembangan kita pada saat masa kanak-kanak. Secara populer, kita sudah mengenal otak manusia yang terbagi menjadi otak kiri (logis, rasional, order) & otak kanan (emosional, simbolisme, nonverbal, makna). Namun, ternyata otak kita juga bisa terbagi ke dalam bagian otak upstairs & downstairs yang berkaitan dengan cara kita menyikapi suatu krisis yang terjadi; apakah kita mampu berpikir sebelum bertindak atau justru secara impulsif melepas tantrum. Materi yang disajikan di dalam buku ini didukung oleh data-data kuantitatif maupun kualitatif. Buku ini memberikan saya harapan bahwa orang-orang dewasa seperti kita yang mungkin telah dibesarkan secara tidak sempurna oleh orang tua kita kelak juga dapat menjadi orang tua yang baik bagi anak-anak kita.
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  Kelebihan buku ini adalah gaya penulisannya yang apa adanya & tidak bertele-tele, sehingga kita bisa dengan cepat langsung menyerap ke-12 strategi untuk menuntun cara kerja otak anak. Ditambah lagi ada gambar-gambar ilustrasi yang sangat membantu orang-orang awam seperti saya untuk memahami materi teknis yang disampaikan. Selain itu, strategi-strategi membimbing cara kerja otak anak di dalam buku ini juga sangat praktikal. Meskipun belum tentu menjadi orang tua, saya merasa buku ini akan sangat membantu saya kelak terutama ketika menghadapi anak-anak (seperti anak didik atau anak asuh). Overall, menurut saya buku ini menjadi buku ✨ wajib ✨ bagi para calon orang tua untuk melek kesehatan mental anak.
  
  📝 4.5 // 5
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  Yasmine Mohamed

  الكتاب علمي بيجمع بين طب المخ والأعصاب والطب النفسي والتربية في كومبو علمي تطبيقي مميز
  أنصح به جدا لمحبين كتب التربية لأنه غير تقليدي وأفكاره العلمية ومزجها مع التطبيق لطيف جدا.
  
  بس تنويه مهم بما إن الكاتبان طبيبان فأساس الكتاب علمي طبي ومن الممكن أن يكون ثقيل نوعا لذلك إستغرقت في قرائته نحو شهر ونصف😂
  
  والتنويه الآخر أن الأسلوب كان ممل بالنسبة لي فالإستيراتجيات التي تناولها الكتاب يعاد طرحها مرارا وتكرارا للتأكد من فهمها.
  من الممكن أن تكون هذه نقطة قوة عند البعض لكنه بالنسبة لي كانت نقطة ضعف هائلة فالإعادات المتكررة لم تحمل جديد.
  
  لكن في الحقيقة الكتاب قيم وحتى الرسوم التوضيحية كانت مفيدة جدا (تلخص العديد من الكلام المعاد) أتمنى لو كانت أكثر.
  
  قرأته بالإنجليزية ولكنه متوفر بالعربية أيضا ولكن لا أعرف ما هي جودة الترجمة لأني لم أطلع عليها.
  
  ينصح به بشدة وأنتوي أن أضمه إلى مكتبتي الورقية قريبا إن شاء الله.
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  Scout Collins

  This book was horrible.
  
  I was expecting some great new "revolutionary" strategies, when in fact I don't think there were any new concepts.
  
  This book basically copied How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen, especially with the "Name it to Tame it" strategy. If you're looking for a good, organized parenting book, read How to Talk instead.
  
  I was excited to learn a bit more about child psychology in this book, however once I started reading it I was disappointed. As other reviewers mention, this book talks down to you in a very condescending manner.
  
  I would not recommend reading this book.
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  Vasilis Philologist

  Εκλαϊκευμένη επιστήμη η οποία ωστόσο απαιτεί ένα μίνιμουμ υπόβαθρο από την πλευρά των γονιών. Εύστοχα παραδείγματα και επιστημονική τεκμηρίωση. Πολύ καλή η μετάφραση αν και κάποιες φορές το κείμενο φαίνεται να ξεχειλώνει για να γεμίσουν παραπάνω σελίδες. Καταρρίπτει κάποιους κλασικούς μύθους διαπαιδαγώγησης και διαβάζεται εύκολα.
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  Aylin Köstekli

  Sadece çocuğum ve ebeveyn olmak ile ilgili degil, kendi çocukluğum, duygularım ve farkındalığım ile ilgili aydınlanma yaşadığım bir kitaptı. Beynime ve çocuğumun beynine bambaşka bir açıdan bakmayı, ona farklı düşünebilmeyi öğretebilmenin mümkün olduğunu keşfetmek beni inanılmaz heyecanlandırdı.
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  Sahiden35

  Yeğenime ve öğrencilerime faydası dokunur diye okudum. Bana faydalı oldu. 😄
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  Nata

  Cartea îți aduce la cunoștință cum stă treaba cu creierul copilului tău și, totodată, autorul îți prezintă modalitățile de integrare armonioasă ale diferitelor părți ale acestuia, adică, ce rol are partea inferioară cu cea superioară, ele nu se dezvoltă toate odată, ci de-a lungul anilor, până la maturitate, apoi, ce rol are emisfera stângă cu cea dreaptă și ce așteptări să ai de la copiii tăi știind toate aceste detalii.
  
  Citesc pentru a doua oară această carte. Prima dată am rămas mai entuziasmată de conținut, după a doua lectură, ceva s-a schimbat și vă zic ce: între timp am mai citit cărți de parenting și această carte nu mi se pare completă, cu toate astea, vă îndemn să o citiți. O să vă ajute să vă coborâți cu câteva nivele așteptările față de comportamentul copiilor voștri.
  
  Creierul „superior“ – care ia decizii şi echilibrează emoţiile, oricare ar fi ele – se formează până la aproximativ douăzeci şi cinci de ani, deci, e pueril și infantil să ai așteptări de la un copil în plină criză de furie că va înțelege ce îi zici tu, chiar dacă fix asta aștepți de la el, să te înțeleagă, el nu este capabil în acele momente. Şi, în special la copiii mici, emisfera dreaptă şi emoţiile ei au tendinţa de a domina logica emisferei stângi. Nu e de mirare că cei mici au accese de furie, se bat, stau supărați sau nimic, aparent, nu le place. Așa e creat creierul, ce bine că avem acces la atâtea informații, știind toate aceste detalii, încerci să nu te enervezi și să faci mai rău, dimpotrivă, iei situațiile ca atare și încerci să ajungi la creierul inferior, parte care face legătură cu logica, cu înțelegerea și, mai apoi, cu calmul. Copilul după ce se liniștește și e pregătit să facă conexiuni, e mult mai ușor să accepte ce i se întâmplă.
  
  Rezumatele de la sfârșitul fiecărui capitol sunt utile și explică și mai simplist ideile discutate, așadar, mai ai încă o șansă să intelegi și mai bine ce vor să îți transmită autorii.
  
  Spor să aveți.
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  Rachel

  This little parenting book is basically about how to teach children emotional intelligence--how to get them to recognize their own emotions, that emotions are temporary, and how to develop sympathy, among other things. Often when I interact with an upset child, I take the "dismiss and deny" strategy of telling them it's okay and that whatever they're upset about isn't that bad. Using this book's method, it's better to first acknowledge the child's emotion, like saying "you look sad! Is it because Cariton won't share that toy with you?" to get them talking about why they feel the way they do, and to acknowledge their current emotional state, and then redirect their attention to something not-sad.
  
  I liked the concise writing and the comic book examples, and I especially liked the chart in the back that has suggestions for the different age groups. I felt disappointed in how dumbed down the neuroscience felt though. One of the back-of-book blurbs described it as "erudite" and offering a "science focus" which is completely misleading. This book is directed at parents who never took neuroscience in college; it doesn't address picky details like which study said that and what their sample size was. In particular the reuse of the "wiring/rewiring" bothered me. They also cited a study on the brain development of vilonists to show that playing the violin can change your brain, when in reality that study also looked at people who learned to play the violin later in life and how it doesn't change your brain's physicality as much later (so I felt that they cited it incorrectly). I also didn't like the inclusion of the buzzword "mindsight" when it seemed like "sympathy" would have worked perfectly well instead.
  
  As far as my gut feelings go, the strategies offered here SEEM like you could back them with current neuroscience and psychology research. Since the authors didn't get bogged down with research they could present their strategies simply and in an easy-to-read format. But personally, I'd like a little more information on how they developed those strategies.
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  Oleksandr Golovatyi

  Нотатки з книги:
  
  "Доброю новиною є те, що використовуючи щоденні моменти, ви маєте змогу впливати на ефективність розвитку інтеграції мозку дитини."
  
  "Ліва півкуля мозку любить порядок і підтримує його. Вона логічна, літерна, лінгвістична (любить слова) та лінійна (створює послідовність або порядок)... Ліва півкуля мозку також полюбляє списки й таблиці. Права півкуля мозку, навпаки, всеосяжна й невербальна, передає та отримує сигнали, що дають нам змогу спілкуватися з іншими людьми, наприклад, за допомогою виразу обличчя, контакту очей, тону голосу, пози та жестів. Наша права півкуля мозку не зосереджується на деталях і не встановлює порядок, а замість цього дбає про загальну картину сприйняття - значення та відчуття пережитого досвіду - і зосереджується на образах, емоціях і особистих спогадах."
  
  "З точки зору розвитку, у дуже маленьких дітей права півкуля мозку домінує, особливо протягом перших трьох років... коли малюк починає повсякчас запитувати "Чому?", ви знаєте, що вже починає працювати ліва півкуля мозку."
  
  
  Тренуй Свій Мозок разом з Readlax (промо-лінк)
  
  "автобіографічні спогади зберігаються в правій півкулі мозку"
  
  "Щоразу, коли ми говоримо: "Переконай мене" або "Запропонуй рішення, яке задовольнить нас обох", ми даємо нашим дітям шанс навчитися розв'язувати проблеми і приймати рішення."
  
  "спогади спотворюються - іноді трохи, іноді сильніше, - навіть якщо ви впевнені, що пам'ятаєте все точно."
  
  "Ваш психологічний стан у момент кодування спогаду та стан у момент згадування впливає та змінює сам спогад."
  
  "процес - від активації нейронів до розвитку та укріплення нейронних зв'язків - і є нейропластичністю" !!!
  
  "мозок - це соціальний орган, створений для взаємодії з іншими"
  
  "незалежно від того, чи мавпа спостерігала за дією, чи виконувала дію сама, активними були ті самі нейрони (дзеркальні нейрони)"
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  Yalın

  Çocuk eğitimi üzerine çok kitap okumadım; ama bu müthişti! İnsan beyninin çocuklukta nasıl çalıştığından yola çıkarak anne-babalara altın değerinde öngörüler içeriyor. Çok değerli bir bilgi kaynağı; her ebeveyne çocukları 1-2 yaşına geldikten itibaren şiddetle tavsiye ederim.
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  HWC

  I wish this could be on every parent’s must-read list. Insightful read with great tips to utilize for children of all ages. 👍🏻
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  Karīna Liepiņa

  Ļoti vērtīga un laba grāmata! Saprotamā valodā saliek visu “pa plauktiņiem”!👍👍👍
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  Jen Grogan

  Things I liked about this book:
  - Some cute kid anecdotes, some of which were pleasantly mind-opening for me since I don't spend much time around very young kids (er... yet).
  
  Things I didn't like about this book:
  - Out-of-date brain science. The idea of the left/right brain dichotomy has been debunked for years, and yet this book is aaaaallllll about it.
  - Over-simplified brain science. Look, I get that maybe some people who read books about this stuff don't want to deal with actual science, but... I do.
  - Shallow concepts, shallow solutions, not enough on-the-ground examples, not enough discussion of what works and what doesn't.
  - Felt more than a bit pseudoscientific or at least just kind of "eugh, dumb pop psychology" for a book theoretically by scientists.
  - Too many created terms like "mindsight."
  - Hand-drawn cartoons that were too small to read on my Kindle and were often not even paraphrased or captioned in the text.
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  Sarah

  من أكثر الكتب النافعة والعملية في تربية الأطفال، إلى جانب كتاب "peaceful parents, happy kids”.
  
  قرأته خلال مدة طويلة جدًا . ولأنه كتاب عملي فسأعود إليه من فترة لأخرى. وجميل أنه تمت ترجمته، لأهمية تواجد مثل هذه الكتب بالعربية.
  
  قرأت هذا الكتاب بعد كتاب No drama discipline ، وظننتُ لوهلة أنني أقرأ نفس الكتاب، إلا أن الواقع أنه محدد أكثر لطريقة التعامل مع الأبناء بناءً على المعرفية العلمية المتاحة الآن بتطورات نمو المخ حسب العمر.
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  cansung

  Bu tarz kitapları çok sevdiğimi söyleyemem ama şu ana kadar o ya da bu sebeple okuduklarıma şöyle bir baktığımda nacizane bir genelleme olarak şunu söyleyebilirim ki kitapların ilk yarısı rahat okunuyor, çoğu zaman öğretici de oluyor. Geri kalan kısmı ise tam bir: Niye bitmiyor bu kitap? Bu da onlardan bir tanesi oldu benim için.
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  Chintushig Tumenbayar

  Хүүхдийг олж танихад их дэм тус хүргэсэн ном болсон санагдлаа. Үр дүнгийн өдөр тутмын амьдралдаа хэрэгжүүлэх өдөр ирэх байхаа.
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  Mehrsa

  A great guide to parenting and talking to kids about their feelings. But it 's probably more helpful for parents of younger kids.
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  Sheziss

  Audible.
  
  Bastante sencillito y concreto. Muchas de estas técnicas se usan en la propia psicoterapia, incluso en la Urgencia, con pacientes adultos. Da directrices muy claras, aprovechando los momentos de conflicto en oportunidades para enseñar y aprender.